Would I be unreasonable to send my 16month old to Nursery as a SAHM

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I had my little girl five years ago, I fully intended to put her and Nursery into years old and find a full-time job, but Covid hit the nurseries were shut and trying to find a job was impossible.

When they reopened, I was going through IVF & got pregnant, I had awful morning sickness until around 7 months.

My daughter was going to nursery 3 times a week but my time off was spent trying not to be sick 😔

since my little boy was born I have had 2 “me” days. (I think 5 “me” days in total since my 5 year old was born).

I don’t have a lot of help from any family and of course my husband is at work.

AIBU to send him to nursery for 1 full day a week or 2/3 mornings a week? Just for a bit of time for myself and to tidy the house properly?

I am on antidepressants for anxiety so I don’t go to as many baby groups as I should do. I think it would do me and him the world of good but I. Just feel terrible for even thinking of doing it 😔

If you can afford it why not? You will all benefit from.this.

You should also be getting a bit of a break at weekends, I hope your husband takes the kids by himself sometimes to give you a rest

Why wouldn’t you. Being a parent doesn’t mean you have to martyr yourself and be attached to your baby 24/7 until they go to school. Your DS is out of baby stage and over the next few months will benefit from the opportunity for more messy play / different toys / activities than you’d do at home.

If you can afford it. Its about £60 day here and £35 IF you can find somewhere that will offer half days.

If you can afford it why not? Does your DH not help at weekends? Could uou give yourself a day off sometimes?

Many nurseries wouldn't accept a child having only two sessions a week as they may not settle. I think I lot insist on a min of 2 days (4 sessions) a week.

No way. Def do it if you can. I put my DD into nursery from 9 months, started off as 1 day then by time she was 4 it was 4 days a week (6 hours per day). It’s great for them & there is no shame in wanting a break to do things for yourself

Go for it!

What does your husband do at evenings and weekends? Any time he is not working, the childcare and household duties should be shared, and ideally you should allow for each of you to have a bit of downtime.

Depends on who is paying for it.