Our DD was born in October. I had separated from my ex partner of several years in the middle of last year, although we had talked about what we would do regarding the pregnancy if we separated and he was clear he wanted involvement. Neither of us are particularly young and I wanted to continue the pregnancy regardless of our separation, so I was relieved he felt the same and I never hated him, I always had a lot of respect snd we we had a good relationship in the main. He has a decent job, as did I, and we had similar values, so I thought. In particular he had talked endlessly about his fear of never being a parent, so when I fell pregnant it was a happy occasion. Fast forward a few months, he became depressed, anxious and paranoid (this has happened previously and one of the reasons our relationship ended as I just couldn’t cope with the fact he never sought help). He began questioning whether Dd was his, saying he wasn’t sure on reflection that being a Dad was something he could do. I was seven months gone by then so not exactly the most helpful comment from him. He then did not speak to me for several months. Quite literally. I text about the birth, invited him to see dd, updated him, all ignored and then he (presumably) blocked me as my messages stopped being delivered. I decided to claim cms, concluding that he was never going to communicate with me and I now had no option. A few weeks later, I receive a payment, with a text from him asking if that amount is ok for me and DD and saying he had bought her some things and would like to see her. I began communicating about this, keeping things brief, and he’s been overwhelmingly pleasant and polite…but completely ignored what he’s done up to this point? I’ve not mentioned it as honestly I don’t know where to begin… part of me is relieved he wants to see her, the rest of me feels angry and upset he could leave me like this to parent alone. And is still doing that. He’s suggested a date for meeting and now I’m faced with it I just don’t know how to handle it. I’m furious, but my sister keeps warning me that if I let that fury show it will only have a horrible impact on DD as she needs her parents to be amicable. I think ex feels he is paying full maintenance so all the care is now outsourced to me and he can now dip in and out when he pleases. It makes me mad and I can’t actually believe he’s communicating with me after previously ignoring me for months. Feeling so conflicted, no other relationship that I’m aware of, but he’s always been quite solitary/depressive sort.