AIBU about this woman

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One of my parents is really unwell. Been in hospital for a few months but with a disease that will continue to progress. life expectancy is 5 years or less. The situation is really complicated due to issues in our relationship but I'm trying to just support them and love them.
I met a girl through my running group and we started to become friends, met up a couple of times but then I realised we are very different and she's quite immature and didn't think we are really compatible friends. Have remained friendly and not been rude at all, just haven't suggested meeting up again. Still chat in running group.
She knows my parent is really unwell and kept persistely asking questions like "well when will they go home?!?" Can they walk yet?? Why have they become so unwell?? Etc
The situation with my parent is so bad that I feel pretty distressed by it and it doesn't really help to talk about it so I thanked her for her concern and told her how much I appreciated her asking but said that I didn't feel like talking about it as its just too painful and I'm finding it all so hard.
That was on Sunday and now I've just got a message from her asking how things are again with my parent.
I know she's probably just being kind but I really really do not want to talk about it and I just don't know what to do.

I'm sorry to hear about your parent.

I think you just need to be clear that you don't want to talk about it, that you don't find it helpful, it just makes you more upset. You could soften it by saying that you appreciate her concern or similar.

I was the same when my dad got ill and died, I appreciated friends and colleagues checking in with me, but eventually I felt able to be clear that I didn't want to talk about it, and everyone respected that (and were probably secretly relieved, tbh)

She's either not good with social cues or she's curious/nosy, which is not a terrible thing to be but also not very sensitive to your wishes.

Sorry, I've just realised that you have already tried that. I think you can be more direct - say 'as I said on Sunday, I would prefer not to talk about this. Please don't ask me again'

It's difficult as you will continue to see her at the running group. I would reply a little more bluntly, 'I know you mean well but it upsets me to talk about my parents can you please not ask me again. Thanks for your support x' If she continues to text a lot take days between replying and then just reply with yes no or an emoji.

Just don't reply.

It's the stance I take with my sisters awful fiancé. He likes to message me completely pointless, and I think, inappropriate things. I now take the stance, that unless it's phrased as a question, I just ignore it.

Copy and paste your earlier message, and keep doing that until she gets the hint.

Thank you for your replies. I've sent a message saying thank you for asking but like I said the other day I don't want to talk about it as its so difficult for me. I really hope she stops now.