to think of/want a relationship with someone considerably (ie more than 10 years) younger than me?

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briefly - i have a close male friend who i have feelings for which i realise go beyond friendship. I have no idea whether or not this is reciprocated but i believe it may be...much as i like him i am very aware of the age difference between us and whether this should make the possibility of anything happening a non-starter?

my justification is that i have just ended a very crappy and long relationship - however equally given that has only just finished (my choice) aibu in any event for thinking of something/one else so soon?

How old are the two of you? I dont think age diference really comes into it once youre both adults, DPs mum is 13 years younger than his dad, dp is almost 5 years younger than me.

As for the other question, do you have any reason to beleive this is a rebound? and what's wrong with a rebound fling if it's something you are both aware of and happy with?Not every relationship needs to be serious, sometimes just having some fun with another person can be a good lift, as long as it's based on honesty I dont see a problem.

Nothing wrong with starting a relationship with someone younger if that's what you both want. You could always review later on if you feel the age gap is an issue Good luck.

If you both have feelings for each other than age is irrelevant imo, so yanbu

my sil is 10 yrs older than my bro - been married 25 years and I've never been aware that it caused a problme.

more than 10 years is a huge difference though (unless you are over 60, in which case, go for it).

there will be power issues, and stuff. I've seen a few friends start relationships with age differneces like that and I've never seen it work. under 10 years is ok. over 10 years, no.

Well, presuming he's at least 16, nothing wrong with it. Starting a relationship is just starting it, there are no guarantees no matter what age you are. If he is up for it as well, give it a go. I've shagged people more than 10 years younger/older than me before now, and did date a man who was 8 years younger for about a year.

I dont agree that more than ten years is a huge issue, as I said DP's mum and dad have 13 years between them, it is not an issue in their relationship at all, him liking the racing causes more issues

my ex was more than 10 years younger and we were together 8 years..

it depends a bit too if you see it as long or short term..i am seeing someone now who is 20 years younger but it would be unreasonable to think of it as a long term goer

so no nothing unreasonable..and as someone else said until you start a relationship or even indeed at any point in it you never are going to know how it's going...very little lasts for ever these days

i am mid thirties, he is early 20's.

obviously i'm not 100% sure it will even get off the ground (as he may well of course say he would prefer to just be my friend) but I'm not looking at it in terms of marriage or anything.....to be honest after the past few years I'd be glad of some harmless fun!

well there is no problem then..why should there be?

see if he is interested

i am 50 and i think it is fine

When I met dp I was almost 26 with 2 kids, he was a year out of uni(just turned 21), its worked, the age gap wasnt a problem, if anything it was the life experience differences that were what we had to work round, I'd imagine for most couples it;s the experiences gone through in those years not the fact they are there, and even peopel exactly the same age can have had totally different lives.

I'd say go for it.

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my dh is 17 years older than me weve been together for 16 years married for 14......age is only a number you just got to try it and see........good luck xxx

the date on your birth certificate is only one part of it- 'age' is more about maturity, life experience and outlook.

people definitely do more easily accept older men and younger women tho