Who stays and who goes?

[EmpathEm]

AIBU?
Two years ago my husband and I split up, however, he refuses to leave our 3 bedroom house he would rather make the children and I homeless.
I decided to end our marriage due to his excessive drinking. For this reason his argument is that because I “left” him, therefore I should be the one to move out of our jointly owned home.
He leaves for work at 3:30am so he wouldn’t be able to look after our 3 children (youngest is 6) and work. I work in the same village we live in, and in the same school as my dd so I get all school holidays off. He takes all my wages every month to pay the bills which have been split 50/50. I get the child benefit every month but I have to do the weekly shop out of that and buy their clothes etc from it too. He earns more than double my wages but refuses to give me anything and because we still live together I don’t qualify for extra benefits.
Since splitting, he has had other relationships, he even slept with another woman in our bed whilst I was away with the children!!
I can’t afford a solicitor atm, so I’m stuck living in this nightmare. We still share a bed because our sofas are so old and lumpy it gives me a bad back.
I can’t afford to buy or even rent a property in the same village so would have to leave the area. Should I leave? Who is BU?

Can you see a solicitor at all?

have your wages put in a solo account.

sleep in one of your childrens rooms even if it's on an air bed.

pit in an application for universal credits. Tell them you are seperated but have to live on the same house as he is refusing to leave.

make sure you are seperated within the home. No shared laundry/cooking his meals etc.

Stop giving him your wages!! How does he take them? Put them in your own account where he doesnt have access, and send him a contribution rather than your entire wage. I'd be looking at how I could move out with my own wages and top up benefits rather than share a bed with him! But for now, get an airbed and share with one of the kids or in the living room, I wouldnt be sleeping next to him!!

Do not give him your wages !
The bills should be split relative to what you earn, not simply 50:50.
Try and find a family solicitor who will give you a free first visit.

Don’t let him “take” your wages! Just get them paid into your own bank account and keep them for yourself.

As to who should move, there is no one answer to that, you both own the house. If you cannot reach an agreement on this between yourselves, then it is something that your solicitors will need to negotiate during the financial settlement part of a divorce process. You need to start that process.