to find this just plain rude?

[frecklyspeckly]

I have a reasonably good friend with 2 dds and i went to see her today at her request. My kids (dd 3, ds 5} played really nicely. We went as invited at 1pm. At 2pm we were asked to tidy up and go because her dds wanted' chill out time'. Not just that she demanded we tidy every last toy away before we left mostly pulled out by her kids!! i m just peed off and ranting really, it was her house, i just would never invite people around knowing as she did they would have to leave after 1hr !! poor kids were all crying!
honestly they were all really good. Weird dont ya think?

very rude after 1 hour. YANBU.

Yep, rudy mc rude!

I wouldn't go back!

Very odd. Perhaps I could invite friends round and get them to tidy up for me

anyone want to come to mine to tidy up

how rude
i never asked anyone to tidy up. i always feel greatful when people accept my invite.
i will never want friend like her, never in million years, thank you very much

Really weird- what do children do in 'chill out time'? [weird]
I wouldn't expect guests to tidy -but am really gratful that they do - but that should be good manners on guests part - not an expectation of the host!!

Rude and strange if invited and her child not ill or something.

seems odd to me - YANBU. i could understand if she had said pop round for a short while b4 picking up other kids from school/ playgroup etc so it was clear it was just a short time but not if she had just invited you for the afternoon....!

It was pretty obvious she just suddenly thought, you know what, i dont want these kids here, there was no unpleasant incident involving kids fighting, i am just cross because the poor kids were more or less bundled out to the hall by her to leave!! her little girl rang me later and said she was missing us, i didnt no what to say?? (we are on a button the phone - i am wanted for babysitting duty u see] and the worst thing was i passed up chance to take my ds out with 2 nursery friends he hasnt seen since xmas to go to this girls house and he cried about it all afternoon, us making me feel bad for taking him in the first place.

sorry that should read ' thus making me feel bad'. Do you no what u r bang on. She is a doofus and next time she wants me to babysit i shall return her kids to cinema/ restaurant/ parental bedroom, after 1 hr, because i need 'chill out time'... thank you

Wow some people are soooo odd! I find them fascinating in their rudeness sometimes - tho not if it make dcs sad

Has she ever acted like that before? Oh and what were you talking about before you were bundled off the premises - you couldnt of offended her could you in some way?

Hello uni challenged, had to smile at ur post, as someone else reading this that is exactly the first thing id think!! but no, she is as i am finding out very, shall we say, confident about asserting her own needs and wants, she just began saying her little one was tired, although i would be polite enough to offer to leave without the ,right tidy up that's it for today, it's chill out time speech! she has a few issues of her own i suppose. Still unpleasant to try and bundle two kiddies with no grasp of situation out of the door!

hi there freckly. she does sound a bit weird tbh -i had one like that (note the past tense but i just meet her at coffee shops now or at the park, so not really a friend. chill out time though.. think i would have laughed and left pdq, like you. let her call you and then you can ask her- you have nothing to lose I guess. unless she babysits for you JOKE

sponge cake, i collect unusual friends! the thing is yet again i find myself thinking why do i bother putting myself through this? oh er yes i think i wont be going around again and no she doesnt babysit as husband finds her an odd one... i am daft and like to give people benefit of doubt, he is proved right this time.

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frecklyspeckly, I have watched a few of your posts on different threads and you so make me laugh- you seem so similar to me,

I too collect odd friends, always trying to accommodate unusual idiosyncracys in people but sometimes you just gotta say bog off!

My spelling is prob shit

How strange...

Ask her back to your house and give her your ironing.

Thank you cheeset I have just read your nice post and it made me smile, honestly trouble follows me round but you have to see the funny side dont you! I wasnt sure if this was actually some acceptable form of etiquette when mums and kids socialise, and i was being over precious of my son for her barking at him to put everything back in correct cupboard. I wonder if this mum and some of her circle are a bit institutionalised from attending EVERY mum and babyclub every day of the week - ARGH ITS BISCUIT TIME/ SINGSONGTIME!!! PACK AWAY PACK AWAY PACK AWAY!!! - unless every child even if they are two weeks old puts away three pieces of lego in 10 seconds the ceiling caves in or something.. it gets me mad. No, we are obviously usless at pre school socialising and my dd will have to stay in the house with me i think until she starts school next year