Second job

[Frenchie36]

AIBU to ask DP to get a 2nd job in these circumstances.

I work full time.

They work part time (24/30 hours) most weeks, occasionally 37 hours

They work in a supermarket earning around £1100 a month or £1400 if full time for a few of the weeks.

Because of other outgoings they can only afford to contribute £400 a month to the household (mortgage,bills,food)

This leaves them with £80 a month spare to do with as they wish.

They really struggle to live within their means and last month went into and over their overdraft (I refuse to have a joint account)

This month I had to say don't give me anything towards the house to Get themselves right for the month. This leaves me really short and using my CC to get by which then impacts budget for next month

I have suggested they need to look for a different full time job or a second part time job. AIBU to suggest this? They do the majority of the housework tbf but I can't sleep for worrying about money.

AIBU?

If someone is doing the majority of the housework and also working 30 hours a week (sometimes up to 37 hours) that seems like quite a full week to me.

I also think that is someone is working in a supermarket, they presumably aren't a highly qualified engineer / Dr / accountant, so actually finding another job that pays better than a supermarket might not be that easy.

If there were some debt to pay off, or a time scaled goal of saving (lets say, saving for a deposit for a house), then I think it would be great to encourage them to take on a 2nd job - say working in a bar 2 nights a week - if they are otherwise fit and healthy, but I don't think it is something I'd want "demanded" of me as a long term lifestyle choice.

It's not fair that you are short because they cannot live within their means. They need to stick to the £400 that's agreed. I think YANBU to ask but don't expect much housework to get done if they are trying to do a 2nd job. They won't have time.
Could they not do full time hours every week or is this not available?

The fuck is he spending £800-1000 a month on?!

It already sounds like a full workload. With the majority of housework. YABU

Doing the housework doesn't pay the bills

What is the rest of their salary paying for? Is this one of those cases where one parent pays for all the children's expenses? Are they paying all of the food bills?