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To miss my dog, but not my husband?

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Dogsandchocolaterule · 13/04/2023 18:27

I'm away with the kids and my sisters kids, it's been nearly a week so far. DH couldn't get the time off work so we decided to go away just the girls and kids. All good DH was fine about it and we are getting on well, we are FaceTiming every day.

It's been nearly a week and I desperately miss my dog and can't wait to get back to her, is it weird that I don't miss my husband even a tiny bit?

On the one hand I'm a 40 year old woman, with my own likes, hobbies career etc and have always been quite independent so I think why would I miss him, it's only been a week, why does it matter, grow up woman!

The other part of me thinks is there something wrong with me/us/our -- marriage because I don't miss him personally? (And actually find holidaying without him easier)--

And if it's because it's only a week, why do I miss the dog so bloody much??

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AdeIe · 13/04/2023 18:36

I'm not needy in the slightest but would miss my DH a lot if I went away for a week without him. I do go away from time to time without him, but much prefer him with me and spending time with him too.

RubiesAndRaindrops · 13/04/2023 18:37

If your relationship is generally good I doubt that it means anything - you've been able to interact with DH but not with your dog after all. I wouldn't expect to miss my DH if we were apart but talking daily for just a week. Plus I expect that a relationship with a dog is less complicated/more restful in some ways than human ones (I've never had a pet so I'm just guessing!) so I can see why you'd miss them. I think its more to do with you've been able to speak to DH I wouldn't worry!

Aylestone · 13/04/2023 18:39

Do you think it’s because the dog is somewhat dependent on you? Obviously a dog is not child, but you kind of care for them the same and I’d be worried how they’re getting on without me. Your dh is a grown man so no need to worry about him for a week or so 🤷🏼‍♀️

BMW6 · 13/04/2023 18:40

Seems perfectly normal to me 😏

ErrolTheDragon · 13/04/2023 18:40

You can talk to your DH, but a dog is mostly physical and subtle sounds and movements.

PriOn1 · 13/04/2023 18:43

And actually find holidaying without him easier

This was thrown in at the end. So in what way is it easier when he’s not there?

TomatoSandwiches · 13/04/2023 18:44

Sounds entirely reasonable to me.

Favouritefruits · 13/04/2023 19:07

Sounds normal to me, you can’t face time or explain to the dog where you have gone and you know the dog will be wondering where you are but you’re talking to your DH daily and he expresses his feeling, I think it’s totally normal but I’m a bit nuts me and DH tried to come home from our honeymoon early because we missed our dog.

44PumpLane · 13/04/2023 19:08

Totally reasonable.....my husband is away at the minute for a few days and I don't miss him at all, too busy and enjoying having the TV to myself.

Sometimes I go away with a friend for a week and am too busy to miss him....plus it's just a week!

C1N1C · 13/04/2023 19:10

Cat trumps wife. That's an easy one.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 13/04/2023 19:10

I regularly stay away for a week for work and I never miss DH Grin

I do miss the dog though! I expect because he doesn't snore as much Wink

Irritateandunreasonable · 13/04/2023 19:11

Seems like you’re massively looking into nothing imo.

Sapphire387 · 13/04/2023 19:24

I'd miss my husband. But I'm not a dog person!

ErrolTheDragon · 13/04/2023 19:42

PriOn1 · 13/04/2023 18:43

And actually find holidaying without him easier

This was thrown in at the end. So in what way is it easier when he’s not there?

Sometimes it's easier if you've got fewer people to please on holidays - some adults don't much enjoy the same thing as a horde of kids.

PriOn1 · 13/04/2023 19:55

ErrolTheDragon · 13/04/2023 19:42

Sometimes it's easier if you've got fewer people to please on holidays - some adults don't much enjoy the same thing as a horde of kids.

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Well yes, but I was wondering about the specifics for the OP. Sometimes thinking about something you threw in as an afterthought turns out tobe significant, sometimes not.

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Dogsandchocolaterule · 13/04/2023 21:05

The part about it being easier is I can just make decisions for me and the kids without having to discuss it. Shall we go here, or there, when shall we go? What stuff should we pack? I get to just make all the decisions and just go here and there as we please. I suppose just get to be selfish for a week.

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HappiestSleeping · 13/04/2023 21:44

I am a dog owner, and their devotion is absolute, so completely understand why you miss her.

That said, I can go to the shops and miss my wife as my devotion to her is similarly absolute 🥰🥰 (apologies, but she really is amazing).

tralaahlah · 13/04/2023 22:20

Probably because YOURE the one on holiday having fun. I'd say you'd miss him more if you were at home and he was away

NualaMay · 13/04/2023 22:26

I can’t tell if you’re joking or not.
I’d be gutted if my loved one spent a week away from me and didn’t miss me but did miss our pet.

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