On line dating. Sent photos. No response

[foolsgold123]

He hasn't opened his WhatsApp yet this morning but I know that you can read messages without opening.
This isn't good is it ?
Or am I being unreasonable?
I know he starts work at nine.
I would have thought that most of us open our messages in the morning ?
I hadn't shared photos on my profile for divorce/ difficult ex reasons

Who knows - but you need to develop a very very thick skin for OLD. It is unlikely to work without pics on your profile - we all have weird exes and complicated situations. Can highly recommend the thread about it on here and the rules posted there. Got me through the first few months of ghosting/ weirdness. Met someone great 4 months in, been together a year moving in next week so keep going!

This thread..
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4773501-dating-thread-240-early-summer-lovin?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

He hasn't even opened the messages yet!

My phone is set so that you can't read messages on the screen - you need to unlock the phone and go to the app.

Thanks
Yes I can't get over the weirdness of some.
I find that they reveal themselves quite quickly though !
Great conversation with a gentleman or so I thought... drops into conversation to ask if I like fucking and what turns me on....
Flabbergasted .
Or maybe too innocent !!!
He ghosted me when I pulled him up on it.

You can't see photos without opening the app. Also getting organised in the morning and going to work probably means he hasn't had time to check messages. He probably wants to wait until he can reply properly. When did you send them? When I worked I didn't have time to read any messages as I hate not responding straight away. I would see who had messaged me in case it was important and then reply to others on my break. X

Wait until the end of the day. It might be that he’s had a mental morning, woke up late, etc.

Or, you could be right- it could be that he’s opened them, realised you’re not his cup of tea. You can’t be everyone’s. Is this a big deal? This is a literal strangers plenty of fish in the sea

It really isn’t normal to not upload pictures to your profile. The only people that don’t are men looking for affairs. I completely understand the safety angle, but I would be wary of a bloke that’s swiping on profiles without pictures- it seems like he’s casting a very wide net.

Also, don’t give out your WhatsApp. A lot can be done with a person’s phone number. Stay on the app until you have vetted them and know them.

I suppose knowing that he is away from his kids and that they are very close led me to think that he would check his messages in the morning but maybe not everyone does that!

Did he ask for photos? Somehow that would put me off him, as if he wants to judge you before agreeing to meet. It means he's considering saying, "Thanks but after seeing your pic I'd rather not meet"!
Are there any other opportunities in your area for meet ups/meeting people, other than OLD?
Straight after my divorce, looking back, I was emotionally very vulnerable and in hindsight not in the best place to be meeting new people. So my advice, whatever you do, would be to take things slowly and don't get too invested too quickly, especially in people you don't know.
(As for your actual question, I would have thought he could have checked his messages by now.)

Thanks for all the tips.
I don't give out my number until I feel we've clicked on line.
Im a bit worried now about giving my number out . What could be done with it ?
I totally understand that he may not be attracted to me but I hope he is honest enough to say it rather than not respond at all ,if that makes sense.

This isn't correct. I can see the photos without opening whatsapp in the drop down notification. It's also possible to go into the gallery where you can see the photos without it sending a read notification.
That's not to say that he has seen OPs photos.

I can see WhatsApp photos without opening the app. They auto save to my camera roll. They also appear on my Apple watch as a notification.

He didn't ask for photos but having chatted on line for a week, I simply said that it was time to exchange photos via WhatsApp or we may as well just leave it and it was ok with me whatever he decided so he sent his number late last night with a message saying he was off to sleep. I sent them an hour later so as not to be wasting anymore time on these exchanges .

Not what you asked, but not sharing photos on your dating profile is going to be seriously limiting the number of matches you can make.

Exactly this...I wouldn't even look at a profile with no photo. All the 'can't share photos for xyz reason' is bullshit. Waste of time and generally they are catfishing.

Sadly, you get a lot of this on OLD.

There are a lot of sad b@s£@rd$ out there. It's best not to engage, just block & delete and leave them to get pervy with someone else.

@GaspingGekko I've been educated on a WhatsApp function, I genuinely didn't know this. My photos don't save to my gallery I have it set that way. If I get a message and pull down for notifications I always see the text and no photo. Thank you 😊