I've known a friend for nearly 10 years and we have always met up with each other in the city where she lives which is 12-14 miles away from where I live. She has never ever visited me, where I live. I never thought of it before the pandemic but since coming out of the pandemic and me having got used to a quieter life where I live, I find myself no longer wanting to be the one who is always doing the travelling. I also work from home most of the week now, so by the time I've done a couple of days in the office that is enough for me and I don't feel the need to travel to the big city at weekends as much now. I feel its time we took it turn about. One time she met up with me half way but only did so because I pressed her to do so. Last time we met up, I met her in the city where she lives and she said we must meet up again soon. I said okay, you come to where I live next time. She looked at me with shock and said what do you mean. I said you come to visit me, because I have come to where you live, this time, and all of the other times. I also explained for me its a 2 hour round trip by bus so its a lot of time out of my day and I just don't have that to give now every time we meet up. I don't think she ever gave the travel time I did any thought because she likes to walk out her house for 10/15 mins to meet up. Finally, she agreed to commute to where I live and we have had a date in the diary for a while, but a few days ago she asked me could we meet up half way but she gave me no explanation. I don't have the time to travel to meet her as I only have a couple of hours free on this date so I said no and explained why. I asked her is there was an issue with her coming to where I live and if there was did she want to re-schedule. She ignored my question completely. She came back and said okay I'll come to you. I get a feeling she might still call off but its left me feeling irked. I know why because she thinks the big city is where it is all at and has made comments previously to me about how she could never live where I live. I think our friendship has probably run its course too, if I am honest, for many other reasons. I am wondering did she think after I agreed to a date that she just thought she could change the venue and I would agree to it. When I think to the one time we met up half way she kept making comment about how the big city is better and how she hated getting the bus etc. I know she will hate it when she comes to me. I am just not sure if I can cope with getting through dinner listening to her negative chat. I'm now thinking I'd rather stay home and just call off myself. But I realise its like kicking a can down the road and this issue is not going to go away!! Any good advice?