Ex is a drug dealer (probably)?

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Name changed for this as it is outing, but I've been here for donkey's years. Posting here for traffic :-).

A bit of background: The ex FF (fuckface), is a malignant narcissist who abused me for years. I left him with the help of the Woman's Refuge with my then 4yo twins. He's continued trying to control me over the past 10 years, and a few days ago after he ranted and raved at me over the phone I finally had enough and told him I WILL NOT talk to him again unless it's through a solicitor.

My DC are now 14 - my daughter is autistic and hero worships FF. My son is trans and wants nothing to do with his dad who still, after him living as a boy for 1.5 years now, refuses to accept this. His latest texts accuses me of encouraging L to 'cut off his tits even though he doesn't have cancer' and that L should 'get over' his dysphoria, accept that he's a biological female and learn to love himself as is, and to stop wanting to mutilate himself. He can't (won't) see that L is 100% happier as a boy than he ever was as a girl. The only reason L still sees his dad is because FF controls L's bank account where L has over £500 saved up, and won't let him have it. He 'fines' L every time L does something FF doesn't like - eg he'll fine him £5 if L doesn't reply to a text within a minute, £15 if L doesn't go to his over a weekend for 'loss of groceries' etc. I have opened an account for L and we're trying to get FF to transfer the money to that.

Anyway, it appears FF uses and probably deals drugs. L has seen many texts on his dad's phone (he knows the password). FF has also actively tried to convince the DC to use drugs. Apparently it would be under controlled conditions and it would be good for them 😡😡. FFS!!!!!

So I want to report him to Crimestoppers anonimously. However, I can't give them all the details as if he finds out they know about him trying to get his DC (MY dc) to take drugs he will know absolutely that it was L who told me, and he'll also know that I am the one who reported it. I truly believe we would be in grave danger. I know it's anonimous, but I'm not sure how much detail Crimestoppers give the police.

What do I do? WWYD? Please help, as this does need to be reported but...

Your ex sounds like mine. I recently cut all contact with him as I was sick of his verbal
abuse, our teenage kids have also cut him off. He too takes drugs, don't think he deals though but that was a major factor of the kids cutting him off.
Speak to SS and tell them your concerns about him being around them.
To be honest crime stoppers won't do much about him taking drugs, but you could still report

I think your daughter should write off the £500 and stop seeing her dad. I'm not sure how you can report your ex without him knowing it was you. It's obviously not a safe place to be sending kids.

My son cut contact with his dad for three months last year. He wants to go NC, but he wants his money first. I've told L that it's just money and can be replaced - his mental health can't be, but he's a teenager and wants his money. A (my DD), tells me on a daily basis what a horrible person I am, how much she hates me and how her her dad is a much better person that I could ever be. Due to her autism, and the fact that she's just like her dad (verbally abuses me on a daily basis also), she cannot see any fault with him.

My thinking is that it could be one of FF's 'customers' who reported him, as far as he's aware I know nothing about this. However, as soon as I mention minors being involved he'll know it was me.

My ex is also taking drugs and I suspect he did throughout our relationship.

He was always so anti drugs but now I look back and realise that he probably used drugs more and more over the years.

I told the police when I reported him for domestic abuse. I didn't want the police to act on the information but I want a log of his behaviour and characteristics.

I do want the police to act though, as the fucker is trying to convince our children to take drugs.

Speak to the NSPCC.
or speak to SS.
Then you’ll have their advice and info but you don’t have to act on it if you think it puts you in danger.
You should also speak about your ex’s coercive control of L. At 14 both children can say if they want to see their father or not, and should also have control of their own money ( obviously not if it’s thousands but everyday money)

Y r u putting yr children’s lives at risk?
Y haven’t u reported him to SS?
Tell yr child that the £500 can be replaced.

I reported my narc ex’s moronic abusive sisters (who put me through hell) for both growing weed in their houses. One of them was growing it in their kids room! In a built out storage cupboard, one of those above the stairs things. Then obviously dealing it from the property.

I’d report in a heartbeat, keep it anonymous and don’t use too many identifying details you should be okay.

This must be the shortest thread ever in AIBU lol. Thanks to those who responded. I have reported him to Crimestoppers - they needed no 'personal' details, just his name, physical description, address, make of car etc. They did suggest I contact the police with more details, but I am weary of putting my son (and myself) in danger.