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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think it is just plain weird to send your DH/DW/DP....

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Wilkie · 14/02/2008 19:05

A valentines gift/card from your DCs??

Why would anyone do that? Why?

(kind of following on from the other thread about sending your DCs a card from you)

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ALMummy · 15/02/2008 15:22

What a strange and rather limited way to think BarcodeZebra.

2bulletsformyvalentine · 15/02/2008 15:25

yanbu not my thing at all.
mothers day and fathers day is the time for that.

2bulletsformyvalentine · 15/02/2008 15:26

By themildmanneredjanitor on Thu 14-Feb-08 19:11:48
really who gives a shit? if you don't like it, don't do it. if you do like it, do it.
io really don't see the issue here.

I think this post really sums it up. might not be my thing but surely it is up to people to do what they want.
(as long as they don't make me do it)

PortAndLemon · 15/02/2008 15:35

DH gets one from DS to me. I don't get one from DS to DH. We see the emphasis of the day slightly differently. But, somehow, life goes on without this critically-important issue impacting unduly on our lives or those of the people around us.

scottishmummy · 15/02/2008 15:41

i sent my boyfriend a valentine i love you card from the wee one to daddy. sweet

WinkyWinkola · 15/02/2008 19:46

I think it's odd too to get cards from adults to children and vice versa.

My MIL sent one to my kids that inferred sex was on the agenda. Of course the silly mare didn't get the card and was annoyed with me when I pointed it out.

Valentine's Day has always been about romantic love.

Origins of St. Valentine's Day

WinkyWinkola · 15/02/2008 19:47

By 'get', I meant she didn't understand the card.

hatrick · 15/02/2008 19:53

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glaskham · 15/02/2008 19:56

my ds (3yo) made me a lovely card at nursery and wrote 'i love you' inside it and it made my day.....but i wouldn't ever send my dh a card a card from either of my dc, or ever expect him to do the same....though maybe i should as the bugger didn't even get me a card!!!

OrmIrian · 15/02/2008 19:58

I didn't like Valentine's Day before this. And after all the rows on MN recently I hate it even more.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/02/2008 20:02

crikey. Who needs a set day to send a card to say they love someone? So what if they do buy into commercialism?

scottishmummy · 15/02/2008 22:38

love my boyfriend every-damn-day but if i chose to sent a card on a specific day up to me

shelleylou · 15/02/2008 22:42

Card companies do valintines card to my daddy or to my mummy now, as long as its one like that i dont see a problem with it. I think its weirder to get a christmas card taht says to the one i love from a dc.

Sugarmagnolia · 16/02/2008 07:56

Well I would have thought it was a bit weird too but the kids took it upon themselves to make cards for everyone - daddy, mummy, grandma, papa (not the dog mind you). DS (4) made several for all his ?girlfriends? at nursery and DD(6) made one for her teacher. They were so pleased with themselves who was I to tell them not to do it? They don't really give a sh&t about the 'origins' of St. Valentine's Day they just knew there was a holiday and they wanted to be involved.

ItsGrimUpNorth · 16/02/2008 08:08

Nope, it's weird. Valentine's Day is for lovers and people you fancy.

Sugarmagnolia · 16/02/2008 08:17

So what should I have said to my kids when they handed me cards saying ?I love you mummy?? Given them back and said it wasn't appropriate? That would have given her something to tell her therapist in 20 years time!

BBBee · 16/02/2008 08:20

lovers only but don't care what everyone else does.

BBBee · 16/02/2008 08:21

where did they get the card and the idea from sugar? If is wasn;t from you or your family I would be a bit

Sugarmagnolia · 16/02/2008 09:05

BBBee - um, I don't know, let me think. The telly, the shops...it's called the power of advertising.

DON'T FORGET YOUR LOVED ONE THIS VALENTINE'S DAY

WHY NOT TREAT SOMEONE SPECIAL THIS VALENTINE'S DAY

I'm sure you've noticed.

WinkyWinkola · 16/02/2008 10:01

No Sugarmagnolia, of course you shouldn't hand back the cards.

It's just peculiar that children are being involved in a tradition of romantic love.

squimlet · 16/02/2008 11:26

oh for goodness sakes they are children. If they want to send their mother/father a card then why not?
why do people have to sexualise the simplest gestures??

ItsGrimUpNorth · 16/02/2008 15:25

Valentine's Day is about sending cards to the one you're in love with - that's the tradition. It's not about suddenly sexualising everything.

MilkMonitor · 16/02/2008 15:35

People / children can do what they like. I think it's weird though for kids to do it unless they're like 10+ and sending cards to each other.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 16/02/2008 15:49

One valentines day I made a scroll for each of the kids on which I wrote 10 things that DH and I love about each one of them, individually. We did it on that hand made paper you can buy, filled them with heart shaped glittery things and tied them ribbon. They loved them, and reading the things we'd written. We both signed and dated them.

Got the idea from one of Mini Doe's Spiritual Parenting books.

Don't really give a monkey's bum who thinks it's odd.. it made us happy and balanced out a little, all the stressy moments we have.

ElfOnTheTopShelf · 16/02/2008 16:00

I think that as with every event the way they are celebrated change. (In some ways, sadly)

Christmas is no longer celebrating religion, more seems to be celebrating our consumerist society.

Easter is about eggs, not religion.

Valentines is no longer about sending a card to somebody you secretly fancy/ are dating / married to, but sending a card and gift to anybody you love or even like - DH got loads of "happy valentines day everybody" messages from various people sending the message to all on their friends list!

I get sad about Easter and Christmas, but Valentines Day doesn't bother me. I'd send a card to DD when she is older, it wouldn't bother me. If Valentines is the Clinton Cards Day to show everybody you love them, why not?

DH and I didn't exchange cards, I got him a fridge magnet, he spent £150 for me to have two days at a health spa

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