Married life

[lonelymamof4]

Few years ago now my partner use to call me a fat bitch, lazy so on so on
After a brief break up. It never happened again until today

Yes I am fat yes I am lazy. Is this normal in a marriage to point out your flaws in an argument

Married 6 years

Christ no! I'd lose weight very quickly but ditching his ugly weight.

Never ever ok to call someone names, especially someone you love. Get rid.

She will take everything off me I can see it now
All I have is my kids
Nothing else
No friends
Only my mam
If she leaves me or the other way round im buggered financially aswell
She's the main bread winner

Erm no. Even my emotionally abusive exH diddnt speak to me like that

You will be left with your self respect.

Everything else you can work towards and get.

Friends and finances will come easily once you have your self respect back by getting this abuser out of your life.

We can help you on here with advice for benefits, work or to make friends but you need to take the first step by separating and staying separate.

This is abuse. If you are married, you have legal protection in the event of a break up, especially if abuse is involved. Please seek help from Women's Aid and legal advice as it sounds like the children are being weaponised and you are being manipulated.

This is abused. You're being abused.
Maybe consider recording her, if you can slip a phone in a pocket where she won't notice.

*this is abuse

I have loads of videos of before when she was like this and evidence but like I said she changed wasn't like this since 2018

Honestly didn't think she'd be like this again

I feel screwed million percent screwed

My husband has never called me lazy or any other name in 26 years of marriage. Yet I am lazy, I admit that. No marriage is perfect, far from it. But it’s not normal to call your spouse names. Think of it this way, anyone you call a name, that person will always remember that. Now I am thinking I need to take my own advice as I think I have used names before. 😳

keep all the messages you get from her, and those can be used against her if you are pushing for custody. she's not doing herself any favours threatening doing anything stupid.

No!!!!

Absolutely not! Lose the abusive pos!

I have thanks

I've left an abusive marriage with a child involved. I was a stay at home parent (in debt) where my husband earned a very good wage and had savings. I had nothing to fall back on. I had been isolated from friends, slightly alienated from family, basically the textbook abuse you all hear about but don't think it'll ever happen to you.

Trust me when I say this - you're in an abusive relationship, it won't get better and your children will all be learning to either treat people in the same way or allow themselves to be treated like you are in the future.

Its rarely easy to leave but I don't know a single person I've met who was in an abusive relationship who didn't regret leaving, myself included. I could never have imagined how much better my life would be once i left my ex husband, I may have less financially but I'm free and now in a very happy relationship being treated with the respect I deserve (and my child knows what a proper relationship should be like too).