Husband, LO and I have relocated 300 miles from SE to NE England. Husband grew up here and always had a dream to move back here. Now we have LO it’s nice for her to be closer to family. Family do not provide any sort of childcare or babysitting. Husband has kept old job and is commuting two days/one night stay over back to London so for two full days I solo
parent. He then wfh for rest of week so is home earlier as not commuting as before. LO will eventually start nursery and my job will be wfh, which I wanted but now realise I would actually like to go into the office a bit. I was not convinced by moving but went along with it to please husband and also knowing LO would be closer to family like grandparents plus potentially better schools and nicer children according to my husband. My family are overseas. Now we have moved I’m still not convinced. His commute seems nuts and is very expensive. It feels backward here and a bit of a culture shock. It’s very one dimensional and as a foreigner I feel like I stand out. We left all our mom friends and LO friends behind. We have signed up to classes to make new friends but this will take time. We are renting for six months. We have a house purchase under offer. Husband is upset that I don’t want what he wants. I am starting to feel resentful about the move and thinking buying a house would be foolish until we know we want to stay here. The rental is perfectly nice but husband thinks we will only truly know what it’s like to live here when we are in the bought house which is nicer. He says he wants me to be happy which he does. I feel guilty for not being on board with what he wants. His family have been perfectly nice but certainly not the welcome we both expected. A big reason we moved here was because of them and their lack of enthusiasm to have us here has been disappointing. I like familiarity and my comfort zone which he doesn’t fully understand as he loves new things. This aspect of our personalities isn’t helping. Please mums, give me some advice. Xx