My mum and dad are in their 60s .
my mum and dad have been married 45 years, I think they love each other but don’t really like each other. My dad goes in moods with my mum and my mom constantly Moans about him…to me….this is where the problem comes in.
im her sounding board, she has no real friends but she talks to lots of people everyday ( she still works)
a few years ago I told her it made me awkward when she moans to me about my dad and she did stop for a while but still made the odd comment and apologies but the last year it’s been really bad.
my dad is really awkward to live with, hence I moved out at quite young.
she says I’m the only person she can talk.
she calls me everyday which is another problem if she can’t get hold of me I get a text saying “hoo hoo”
im a sham so she knows generally I’m always about, it’s that bad I’ve thought about faking a job.
if I go out on a weekend I text her that I won’t be about or she will just keep trying to call.
I’ve suggested counselling, groups to make friends but she says no it all of them.
I’ve also noticed if I go on holiday even for just a weekend she’s a lot worse when I come back I will phone her when I come back and she first asked how the holiday was then “ I’m so glad your back your dads been driving me mad”
she’s delicate and I really don’t want to hurt her I know I will if I say anything but she really brings me down.
she’s a lovely person but her reliance on me is unhealthy….I think!
any suggestions?