Working from home struggles

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For all the positives that working from home has bought for us as a family unit e.g:

• husband able to watch toddler when I nip out
• husband able to do school runs
• husband able to see children grow up
• no petrol used

There seems to be such a struggle still

• I work part time in an office out of the house which is my break away (quite normal in motherhood anyway)
• my home space when I am with young children is husbands full time work space
• in terms of general atmosphere I feel like my husband is always in his "work head zone" - as he should be of course but that impacts how we speak with each other at home day to day - he is always so serious and I feel very submissive in conversations as he is focused on work. I feel like he speaks to me like an employee of his. I don't know how to put it into words as I know that sounds a bit naff - I hope people can understand what I am meaning by this.

I know AIBU is a bit brutal sometimes so please be kind as I am genuinely wanting to know if others struggle with the whole full time working from home set up - particularly with a young family ? Has it changed your marriages or relationships !!??

Does he has an office space to shut himself away in? Not sure I could manage to work with toddlers around in day, the living room.

I completely understand everything you have written here. My DH works permanently from home so I either have to vacate our bedroom by 8am so he can work there or, he works in our open plan dining room. My work takes me out of the house 3 times a week for 13 hour shifts so, when I am off I need some space.
My DH gets short with me if he is stressed about work.
I don't know what the answer is but I don't love it.

I'm in a slightly different position in that I can WFH and my DH doesn't, but I've actually gone back to the office >80% of the time as I like the separation between work and home life. I find it much easier to switch off from work in the evenings if I've been in the office.

I appreciate that I might think differently if WFH meant I avoided a long commute, but my commute is short and I often combine it with other things on the same journey eg going to the gym.

For me, WFH is not good for family life.

yanbu in your case.

if your dh had a separate office at home it would be different though.

wfh works very well for many.

WFH works brilliantly for us, but we have a separate room used as an office. I dont think the dynamic would be the same if for example the work space was the living room or kitchen table. Does he have separate space?

I WFH as does my partner, which we both love.

But, you have just described me and my behaviour. I hadn't realised till now that I can be that way. Thank you, genuinely, for the nudge I'm going to do better.

I think for some it’s a case I’d be careful what you wish for.

If anyone is home and not working for parts of the week I think it’s super important that the person wfh has dedicated workspace where a) they don’t get interrupted and can focus and b) their work doesn’t impact on others in the house.

I work from home 3 days one week, 2 or 3 the next
I still pay for wraparound care no way could I work with kids running round!!

I also have a separate office, bedroom 4 which is a box is now my office. I don't think I'd want to work in the dining room.

It saves us money in terms of fuel
But not in terms of childcare and saves me an hour each way travelling so home a lot earlier which is great.