Not to understand this...

[justsayingthat]

If a man identifies as a woman (transwoman) and then embarks on a relationship with a woman, does this mean that they are straight or gay?

And what about the person they are in a relationship with? Someone can dress as a woman, act like a woman but still have male parts... so would this person attract straight woman or lesbians?

My question also applies to woman who identify as men too.

As a straight woman, I can't imagine being attracted to someone who identified as a man, but was biologically female. Equally, I wouldn't be attracted to a man (who still had the bits) but identified as a woman. It just leaves me puzzled as to how relationships work for trans people.

I genuinely struggle to get my head around this; I'm not trying to be obnoxious.

It's down to each couple to define their own relationship, sexuality and preferences (or not define them at all if they don't want).

You don't need to get your head around the sex lives of other couples who have different preferences to you.

Why does it matter? Some people are bisexual, some people are attracted to the person rather than the sex parts. If everybody is happy and in a consentual relationship why do you need a label?

It doesn't matter to me and I don't 'need a label'....I'm genuinely just curious! Like I said, I am not trying to be provocative/ judgemental.

I've often wondered if this is a factor for people who are considering transitioning. Do they worry about meeting partners if they begin to identify as the opposite sex?

I know a person who was born female, had a girlfriend. Now identifies as male and remains with same girlfriend- has had some surgery (breasts). So this person was a lesbian, but is now a straight man? And her partner was a lesbian but is now a straight woman? Or not?

They are just a couple, who clearly love and support each other.

Why do you feel the need to try and define their relationship?

Obviously you do need labels, otherwise you wouldn't bother asking. Since you're so keen on labels you may want to look into it a little more, straight and gay aren't the only two types of sexuality.

@ItsThePlayBusDingDing sorry if my question/ ignorance has offended you.