Are there any positive family court stories?

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As above, are there any positive family court stories?
I'm just entering this process.
Unfortunately mines an all to familiar tale, he was emotionally abusive and controlling, i left, now he's telling everyone I'm crazy.
I did over 80% of childcare, was always primary carer, now all of a sudden he wants full custody.

What on earth do I do? How can I ensure I have the kids the majority of the time like they've always known? They are still bery young. He's doing this to hurt me and to continue to abuse me. He only wants their benefits he never wanted them full time or even half the time when we were together, made all the excuses.

The posts about how awful the family courts are, are really panicking me that the courts won't do the right thing by the kids. I'm happy for the kids to see him 2 nights a week, even that's more than he's ever done before! And if they wanted to, of course we could work up to 50/50 if the kids wanted that. But he's saying I'm nuts and I can only have them 1 day a week.

Is it really going to go in his favour? What do I need to do here? I have a solicitor.

Please, tips, advice, stories welcome.

I’m in similar same position. I applied for c100 though as he is abusive and controlling he was arrested at Xmas I left him. Filled for divorce.

he has been on at me the last few months up until the court date wanting me back blah blah he cheated abused me alot I found out he took my 2 year old to a hotel to meet one affair had sex in hotel room with her (he thinks it’s ok as my son was asleep) it’s so so wrong. And he has put him in bed with another women too.

Because I refused to give him 50/50 he has switched his narrative claiming I’m mental even though he previously stated to caffcass I’m an amazing mum. It’s all about control. Currently he has supervised visits in a contact centre till 20th June then back to court as he has now applied to have him taken off me! Saying I’m the abuser typical narcissist I’m so worried and anxious all the time like when will this end. All I’ve read is horror stories online of family court.

I have a non mol order on him currently he is a danger to women well to anyone tbh. He lives with a friend no bedroom for son drives round with no tax no insurance no mot. I won’t have my son in the car. I’m so worried he is gonna be given over night contact at next hearing. I just can’t even begin to tell u how worried I am about that and what my son will see :(

abusers seem to get away with everything

Wow! I thought I had written this when I first read it.

They're all reading from the same instruction manual, aren't they!?

It’s horrible isn’t it the shit we have to go through due to there behaviour

No, unfortunately. I have a friend who is a family court judge and it's horrendous. usually because it's a last resort for warring parents. Her job is SO stressful, the shite she has to deal with everyday, I honestly don't know how she does it.

The court's job is to represent the children's needs. It's rare that either parent gets what they want, otherise mediation would have been enough.

My DF was taken there by her ex, spent £30k on legal fees only for a court order to be put in place for EXACTLY the arrangement they already had in place. His demands were ridiculous - like they would split summer holidays 4 weeks and 4 weeks and in his 4 weeks the kids were to have no contact with the mother at all.
Or that he didn't have to pay any costs towards clothing or uniforms the mum had to do it all. Or that he was to have every Xmas and Easter as the mum isn't from a christian background so he should have 'christian' holidays.

£30k she spent for the judge to tell him to get a fucking grip and tell him that wasn't in the best interests of his kids.

I've been involved in quite a few as a social worker where the children are open to us but also in private proceedings. I've been involved in writing some section 7s and 37s that have made real positive differences to children's lives. I've also been involved in cases where one parent has requested more contact or change of main care where I've recommended no change or minimal change which has also been the right outcome. However as a social worker my reports are QAed by a manager and checked for rationality. where there is only a cafcass officer involved nobody checks the reports or QAs them and the quality is MASSIVELY variable.

Family court seek the best outcomes for the children. That's generally to see as much of both parents as possible