Tired , Pregnant and feel I’m letting dd down .

[Cocolocobaby]

Have one daughters aged 17 months.
I work as a SEN teacher 4 days a week.
Am 31 weeks pregnant and exhausted . Today I’m laying on sofa. Baby is clean and fed and playing with her toys but I’m just laying on sofa . I feel awful . I know DH wants me to get up and going but I can’t find the strength today. He has gone shopping now which is obviously helpful.

I’m back at work next Monday . I will have to get through the next 6 weeks then I’ll go on maternity.
Dd goes to nursery 3 days which she loves. She spends one day with my family which she loves. We adore and cherish her but I feel like i am failing her right now. I should be out walking with her. Or at the park. I used to be so active but I’m feel so exhausted.

Am I being lazy laying here ? Please help me!
Dd has never watched tv shows. She just likes to play with her toys. I’d always take her out for walks or to play group on our day together . She is very loved but today she is still on her Pjs!

She plays with her toys independently at 17 months?? Good lord just enjoy it! You’ve done something right for her to have an imagination capable of that much solo play. So what if she’s still in her pjs? I don’t think when she is 20 she will look back on that day her mother let her play in her pyjamas as the moment it all went wrong ;)

She’s happy and cared for. You’re doing absolutely fine.

FWIW, although obviously I don’t remember being that young, I do have very fond memories of my childhood playing with toys- usually hugely elaborate stories with my Barbies. I could be left alone in my room or in the garden all day long, only coming down for meals, because I loved playing so much. There is nothing at all wrong with resting while she plays.

Honestly you are entitled to a rest! I'm in the same boat, I am 27wks with a 17 month old am sometimes we have lazy days and I don't feel guilty at all!
I think it's good practice for them as when baby comes along then they'll have to spend time at home playing. Especially if you have a c section!

@Chattycathydoll thank you for your reply . Makes me feel so much better .

So long as I’m in the room , she will play with her toys / walker / instruments -
for around an hour . She will sometimes come for a cuddle . Then go off again.

She will have nursery again from next week and my parents then hopefully 6 weeks after birth if new baby I’ll be getting back to normal and starting to have energy ( I pray !)

@bunnyrabbitsandbutterflies Thank you for your reply ! I am having a lazy day . We all do need them . Wishing you a brilliant rest of your pregnancy xx

Yanbu, if she's playing independently at 17m you are definitely doing something right. Don't be so hard on yourself. She is probably having fun, you are right there with her and she is clean and fed- you're doing well! Fwiw, I had a really rough and tough pregnancy and from 28 weeks just did pretty much nothing. My dh did absolutely everything and just let me be. You are almost there, just rest :)

Get ready for having two... then you will know true exhaustion, permanently

I'm 17 weeks pregnant with an 18 month old and am recovering from having MIL, BIL and SIL over most of the long weekend, found it pretty intense entertaining and looking after a toddler and being prego-exhausted. I've not even showered today, and have mostly been lying on the sofa eating chocolate. No energy. It was pissing it down today so a valid excuse to do nothing.
My DD watches all the tv and plays independently too, I try not to feel guilty, she has a pretty active social life so prob likes having days at home chilling with her parents. DH is chasing her around with a parrot puppet which is giving me life.

Im with you OP, I’m absolutely knackered and 31 weeks pregnant. My son is school aged and I feel a big crap we haven’t done a lot this Easter hol, but I’ve been shattered. Plus im recovering from covid so just feel even worse. 😫

Oh yes also fallen foul of covid and have the worst sinus / catarrh issues I cannot shift

DH is bathing toddler. We're getting a Chinese takeaway and watching the new Top Gun movie 🍿

@winningeasy Chinese takeaway and Top gun movie is a good call 👍

I voted YABU because you are giving yourself a hard time for no reason.

You're doing the best you can with what you've got going on - that is all you can do.

There are no perfect parents, no perfect lives - we're all just trying to get by and that will be good enough for your daughter and your newest child when they arrive.

Relax on that sofa, do whatever it takes to get through the next 6 weeks and then rest ready for the new baby. Take care of yourself so you can manage this tough transition.