Asking about my love life?

[theneighborhoo]

Am I being unreasonable? I probably see my friend once every 2 months and she always asks me “how’s your love life”

She knows I was really hurt when my last relationship ended and she knows that I don’t want to put myself out there because I can’t be bothered getting hurt again.

I’m so tired of having to repeat myself of - nothing is happening. I feel like if I was seeing someone (I won’t ever be but) then I would just naturally bring it up in conversation.

Agree it’s tiresome Is she being purposefully mean or is it badly worded, ya a bit of a stock phrase for some folk
Do of course say to harm as soon as anything is happening you’ll be the first to know
Gently remind her you’re in no hurry given you have had a hard time before

Thank you, it’s also that it’s met with the sympathetic head tilt and an “aww”

I think you might consider trying to develop new friendships with women who don't assess you by whether (or not) you're with a bloke.

“how’s your love life”

"But my dear friend, it's not all about me - how is YOUR love life?"

I'm assuming that she is - in Bridget Jones-speak - a Smug Married, or partnered?
Because they are always gobsmacked to have their intrusive questioning turned back on them. They believe it's fine to quiz singletons about their - let's face it - sex lives, but are horrified when the tables are turned.

If she's single too, ask her why she's more interested in hypothetical men than in your own, actual life.

I had a friend who was ONLY interested in this. I never had anything to report. After a while, I realised she was being a bit weird.

"Janet, stop asking me this. If there's anything to tell you, I'll let you know in my own good time. You'd be mightily offended if I demanded details of YOUR love life, wouldn't you? So stop patronising me with invasive questions."

”OMG…. I’ve never known orgasms like it… I almost come just thinking about it… oooh”

Say something like that… should shut her up 🤣

Stop spending your valuable time with people who don't add value to your life.

Can not stand people like this.

I used to know few people like this, ditched them and life got better.

No one is more boring than a person who’s whole life revols around relationships, theirs or other’s.

YANBU

I know this is a bit of a reach but sometimes (and I know she can be very competitive) I’m not sure if she’s asking because she just wants confirmation that I’m still single. Like she’d actually be worried if I wasn’t.

She has a partner.

Urgh.

I had a friend like this. She was easily one of my eldest friends, having been buddies since school.

She never really matured, and even in our late 20s, would always ask "how's your boyfriend", no "How's you/life/work/kids/family", always about the boyfriend.

It became a bit of a running joke in our circle and we all slowly withdrew from the friendship as it was all a bit weird.

Got back in touch with her some years later via social media, and yes, you guessed it. Her very 1st question was "how's your boyfriend".

KMT

YANBU. Shut it down firmly but with a smile and change to a different topic every single time she mentions it - "nope, still single and have no interest in meeting anyone as I've told you lots of times! Did you enjoy that film you went to see the other night?"

She'll get the hint soon enough...hopefully.