To be struggling this much with pregnancy plus toddler?

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I feel a bit slow, stupid, useless a lot of the time. I’m struggling to pick DS up (fine when he’s wanting to be carried or amenable to it but if he’s in one of those tantrum moods I just physically struggle to get him.) I have been doing a variety of things with him over Easter and they haven’t been very enjoyable unless DH has been with me.

I have another 3 months left, and I have him alone two days a week. So I guess I’m wondering how others managed, I do need to keep him occupied and engaged but feel so exhausted and struggling with the actual mechanics of it!

How old is your DS? I'm currently 38 weeks with a 2.8 year old and this pregnancy has been really tough going, i was very sick and have felt awful the whole time. Also physically struggling with hip pain etc. I have explained to toddler that I can't pick her up and she knows I have trouble bending down 😆tbh she's been very understanding and helpful picking things up for me! I've just tried to balance pushing myself to do some things with her and explaining I can't do other things currently but will be able to again when the baby is born. Also my DP has been very supportive in looking after her and letting me rest which has helped a lot.

Mines 2.4 months. Seem to be going through an exceptionally challenging stage!

I sympathise - I'm 21 weeks and I have a 3 year old, I've been really ill over the last few weeks and it's just so difficult. The days are just a slog of work and child-wrangling and exhaustion. DD is at the age where she veers between being super-independent and then reverting back to baby-mode when she's tired (wanting to be picked up etc.)

I've just had blood tests to see if there's anything else going on that could be making me feel so bad, but there probably isn't. If I'm honest, I wish there was something wrong with me, so I'd have an excuse to sign off work and go to bed for a week!