I am bloody terrible at explaining. ( Will delete other post)
To sum it up.
My ex is always Dr Googling herself. She has always had health issues to the point people joke she is a hypocondriac.
Her son (my step son at the time) has been a handful over the years and before I left she was telling him / self diagnosing him with ADHD, saying she thinks he has it. I told her not to do this (she got upset), if she thinks he has ADHD get him a diagnoses. I think she is trying to find explanations for his behaviour. Granted he might have it.
My daughter came around the other day and we were chatting (can't even remember what about) and my daughter said :
'Mum thinks I might have ADHD'
I asked my ex about this and she said they just joke with my daughter when she talks incessantly. I asked her not to do this as my daughter, although not upset doesn't see it 100% jokingly.
My daughter then goes on to say:
'Jim ( the step son) has it, mama thinks she might have it.'
I just want my ex not to self diagnose my daughter like she is doing her son and I VERY VERY much doubt the son has an official diagnosis. My ex thinks my daughter might have it but I've said if that is the case please stop joking about it and we can discuss it.
I just don't want my ex doing what she is doing with her own son and telling my daughter she has ADHD without a diagnosis.