MIL’s comments about my parenting and children

[Sunshine1996]

We have stayed over at MIL’s since Friday. She moved over when DS was less than a week old, he is now nearly 1 and she’s met him 3 times so doesn’t really know him. DD she does know fairly well, she is 2 1/2.
Since we’ve been here I’ve been told:

I play with my children too much. Apparently I’ve created a rod for my back as I sit on the floor with the kids and play with bricks, read books, play dough ect. and they should just be left to play themselves. She thinks DS and DD are too dependant on me because of this.

DS only ever whines and moans. This really angers me. DS does I admit cry when we leave a room and does follow me round like my shadow. But he’s also a lovely, smiley boy who majority of the time actually isn’t ‘whiny’ she never makes an effort to play with him, only ever makes a negative comment about him.

We are too soft on DD and when she has a tantrum to completely ignore her. Example being DD asked to go in the garden, MIL said no as the grass was still wet. DD did tantrum when we said no, she was getting herself really worked up. Just a normal toddler tantrum. I was told not to speak to her and ignore her.
There are way more comments but ugh! Just really needed to rant. I am very glad to be going home today.

@Regholdsworthswaterbed I can confirm that your MIL was correct. I cuddled my DDs lots and lots and yes, they are both gay. 😂

Take her advice and use it on her ie ignore her and don't speak to her.

Parenting is a relationship - it’s not a job with rules you can get right or wrong. You do what works for your relationship. If you & your kids are happy more often than you’re not, then what you’re doing works for you & she has no right to tell you otherwise. Either ignore totally or tell her to stop, I used to say to mine (joking not joking), “well, if you ever have a kid again, you could do it that way, but I’m their Mum & I’m doing it this way”.

I don't parent that way - thanks.

This is the way I like to parent.

I don't need feedback, thanks.

That's interesting you say that....but no.

Really? I don't approve of that at all.

You parent your children the way you see fit and I will parent mine my way.

With all due respect, you're not their mother.

By all means be the grandma you want to be but please don't tell me how to be the mother

I'm doing it my way thanks.

Thanks, but I didn't ask you.

Well she is right about ignoring the tantrums.