How would you do this?

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My 9 year old DD always begs for food right before bed. She doesn't eat all her dinner and begs for food and screams the house down right before bed because she's apparently starving. I told her she should of eaten all her dinner. I've even offered her earliers food but she won't eat it because it "tastes disgusting now".

What do you do when this happens?

I feel bad for sending her to bed without offering her something else as I don't want her to go hungry but at the same time she needs to learn to eat all her dinner. Help pls.

Give her something else for sure. No harm in a couple of slices of toast, she will be growing. I wouldn’t want to eat earlier made food either nor would most people.

Does she dislike a lot of the food you cook? What will she eat? Is there any way you can get her involved in the cooking, and/or shift tea time later on?

Trying to get children to eat everything on their plate can lead to restricted eating and issues around food too so is better to encourage them to eat until they feel they have had enough.

Mine, even after eating dinner, was always hungry so had supper of either toast of cereal an hour before bed.

maybe give her some weetabix or something if she complains she’s hungry.

Give her a smaller dinner and supper before bed.
If she's doing it after getting ready for bed, as a delaying tactic, give her a bit of cheese (It's pretty much the only thing that's ok to leave on your teeth) and send her quickly in her way without a fuss.

Giving supper (if you want to call it that) is not a bad idea as long as it is a reasonable snack. Children sleep better on a full tummy but is there much of a gap between her last meal and bedtime. If it is hours then she probably really is hungry but if she is forgoing tea to snack on sweets and so on then she is probably trying it on. But as @olivejury said it is better not to create issues around food and encourage her to eat well.

Give her food! My 10 year old always has food before bed. Either cereal or toast

What time is dinner and what time is bed?

DS goes through phases where he is ravenous, usually indicates an impending growth spurt. Wholemeal toast with whole nut peanut butter and a cup of milk is a good filling supper, sometimes with a banana for good measure. Before brushing teeth of course

Smaller dinner and supper.

Mine are allowed something reasonable like Weetabix or toast. Milk to drink. They always have an apple. I wouldn't send them to bed hungry they need calories to grow.
A growling tummy would probably stop them having a decent sleep as well.
If they don't eat a reasonable amount of dinner then they don't get any treat items that evening.

Agree with others who say a slightly smaller dinner, to avoid her leaving some, then a supper. Supper could be dessert, or cereal, toast, cup of hot chocolate. Involve her. Talk to her about food waste and the need to avoid it. Ask her what she would like to have regularly before bed, then come up with a plan.

screams the house down right before bed

Is this hyperbole or is she actually screaming for food?

I would give a smaller dinner and have something like yogurts in for supper time.

How does she eat the rest of the time? What does she eat? If eating healthy food at meals and not obese (no not talking carrying some extra), then offer her something before bed. If the rest of the food picture is out of balance then it’s a bigger issue that needs more than a bedtime strategy. (Also the screaming: does she normally do that if she doesn’t get what she wants? Different issue from food but also needs thinking about how you need to manage that.)

Small tea/dinner. In fact I'd make it smaller and smaller till she regularly ate it all then small bowl of cereal/toast before bed....however I'd start supper at a set time in case it's a bedtime delaying tactic.
It's not unusual for children to want/need supper

I've even offered her earliers food but she won't eat it because it "tastes disgusting now".

Many people have trauma around food from being served up their dinner again later on when they say they're hungry. Please don't do this.

Give her the amount of food she wants/ can eat at dinner time and if she wants a healthy snack before bed then let her have it. What's the problem?

I'd give her super as a matter of routine (my DC had hot milk and apple or banana blended with mill to make a banana milkshake) but wouldn't give pudding at dinner time and would let her help herself to how much she's going to eat at dinner.