To be worried about her drinking?

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Since having problems with her family in 2020 my mum (55) seems to be drinking more and more.
Which in itself maybe, I wouldn't worry.
The thing is, she hides it. I don't even see her drink and then all of a sudden, she'll be hammered, falling over and unable to get a sentence together.
No one else can have any form of alcohol in the house that she knows where it is, else she will drink it.
She still gets up to go to her job every morning as a part time cleaner.
She denies she drunk then I'll find empty glasses hidden.

I've tried talking to her sober.. pouring drinks away, saying I'm really worried and asking why she drinks.

Nothing works. I'm at a loss. I hate seeing her so drunk she can't speak properly, or falling over.

Am I being OTT? What would you do?

I got a call from my sister with similar reports on DM (sister much younger than me, still living at home). DM denied there were any issues, but when I went over and had a look about, I found empties stashed everywhere. She refused all help until I rang her GP, who got her some support (both for the triggers for her drinking, and with the alcoholism itsself). It was a long journey, but she's been dry for 12 years now. My sister still lives at home, and can have alcohol in the house without it being an issue.

@PeapodBurgundy thank you very much. I was wondering if I could contact the GP on her behalf or not or if it would be a confidentiality issue x

My Mum is very similar. Completely denies it so it’s hard to bring it up but I can tell even on the phone when she’s been drinking. Her health is declining too. It’s linked to her MH but I feel like there’s nothing I can do if she’s not willing to admit it or get help. There’s no way she’d speak to the GP.

The only reason DM engaged with the GP, as that both he and I pointed out we had an obligation to tell her employer if we thought she was under the influence of alcohol at work (she worked in healthcare, so it mattered).

The GP wouldn't be able to discuss any medical history with you, but can absolutely listen to your concerns and add it to her notes that this had been alleged.