How do I handle this

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TracyP35 · 09/04/2023 20:18

Oh Girls, I'm so cross was having a lovely Easter Sunday cooked a nice meal for my family and just happened to lift my 13 year old sons phone to check it (I do this regularly this was the deal when we let him use social media) well I noticed all his posts were all liked one after the other, as I didn't know the name of the account I clicked on it only to realise it is my bloody husband! I don't use tictok but knew he had it as its never out of his face when he comes in from work. He follows over 200 half naked women profiles.

Just before Christmas he had a snapchat from someone from tictok who he didnt know and had no idea how she found him on Snapchat, this caused a big argument between us and now this I feel so cross haven't said anything yet.... am I wrong in feeling this way I actually feel hurt.

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Angeldelight50 · 09/04/2023 20:26

Sorry OP 💐 No advice really but YANBU, I would be hurt too.

Whataretheodds · 09/04/2023 20:29

Yeah I'd be hurt too. And if you could see this so can your son, or indeed anyone else. At best, it's properly cringe. At worst, it's infidelity.

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TracyP35 · 09/04/2023 20:39

Thanks ladies, was thinking the same about my son also seeing it. I don't think tictok and snapchat can connect either so I've no idea how it connected before Christmas for this woman to message him, I was sitting beside him when the girls name popped up and. I feel so silly like he's just made a fool out of me.

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Angeldelight50 · 09/04/2023 21:14

Do you know what the Snapchat/message said? You could ask if he realises how utterly cringeworthy he looks but he probably won’t see it that way, so I’d broach the subject by asking him how it would make him feel if you were following hundreds of men and receiving unsolicited photos/Snapchats.

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TracyP35 · 09/04/2023 21:23

I can't remember what exactly the message said he me said he didn't know her so I wrote back do I know you and she said no but it didn't stop you from asking for a pic of my t*ts....
Still denys it and has no idea how she got on his friends list on Snapchat.

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TTCX2 · 09/04/2023 21:30

Sorry OP this would have me doubting things too. Not to say that your husband is right and this is the case, but I use Snapchat and there have been a few times where random women have added me on it and started sending links and flirty messages. For some reason they can message you even when you’re not ‘friends’. So could be that? Doesn’t excuse who he is following on TikTok though. Sending hugs!

missmollygreen · 09/04/2023 21:31

Did he tell you he had deleted his tiktok?
If you knew he had an account im confused why you are annoyed

JudgeRudy · 09/04/2023 21:34

What do mean by following 200 half naked women? Is this on TT? What content are they posting? Is he following any men?

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TracyP35 · 09/04/2023 22:01

I'm annoyed because I didn't think he'd use tictok to follow women he doesn't know who's content is full of them with little to no clothes on. Yes there is a few men who he knows and our son.
We both have Facebook and he doesn't have any of that on there I don't have tictok so obviously thought I wouldn't have seen it

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