Getting very grumpy

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Husband is in a deep depression, drinking more than he should and has not got out of bed for a week (at least) or left the house in 3. Now has had a ‘migraine’ for 3 days meaning Easter has been write off! And my empathy is running low and I acknowledge I have lost my temper and shouted on a number of occasions I’m meant to be seeing my parents tomorrow (distance means I will stay the night so be gone 24 hours. I’m leaving food, dogs meals prepared etc etc and against my better judgment alcohol. So am I a heartless bitch, or am I reasonable to want to dedicate some time to my elderly almost housebound parents and take them out to lunch???

Yanbu at all, but I would only be extremely concerned about leaving the dogs with him. Surely he'll just completely neglect them?

@halfsiesonapotnoodle Dogs will cope for a day, they won’t let him forget to feed them, all he will need to do is put the bowls down for them when he goes into the kitchen to get another bottle and they are fine without a walk for the day……. But yes that is my real worry in the back of my mind 😒

Don't leave the alcohol. Why would he want to drink if he has a migraine?

sorry to hear this, is his depression untreated?

He’s really not left bed for a week and the house for three? That sounds really serious OP.

Does he (and do you as carer) have professional help? Is this a phase he goes in and out of or is it new?

Do you have children at home?

It’s incredibly hard living with someone who suffers from depression and you need all the support you can get.

It’s untreated, he is a retired psychologist so of course knows best. He goes in and out so this is somewhere we have been often. No children, just the dogs who he loves probably more than me!