AIBU To feel so hurt by what I percieve as workplace bullying?

[Ivehadenough25]

Hi, so I feel like I've been bullied at work by a couple I work with (one I'm employed with 'A' and one who volunteers 'W').
It's gone on a while and I tried to sort it out to no avail. Recently, I had a mediated meeting with A where they took no responsibility for the things they've done to me, the way they've spoken to me, and the general disrespect I have been shown.
I have taken responsibility on my end for the things I'd been doing that had upset them - but I would like to make it known that was more due to preference than me doing anything wrong. But, I am open to change and that's fine.

Now, because I have said sorry they're acting like things are all good again but they have not acknowledged the things they've done to me and the way they've treated me.

I've put my notice in for this job, due to my wanting a change anyway but that's been compounded by their behaviour and total lack of apology. I am so very hurt by them and by my line manager for allowing this for so long (I told them but they never saw or so they didn't believe me).

They do not speak to me or act disrespectfully towards me in front of anyone else. I do feel bullied out of my job and I have 4 more months of working with them and to be honest I don't know how I'm going to cope.

From the moment the meeting ended with A, they were trying to talk normally to me while I was in floods of tears because I was so hurt and they were so vicious towards me.

AIBU for feeling this way? How can I get past this?

Of course it’s okay to feel this way. You don’t have resolution on the issues. Speak to your line manager and explain that you need further help to deal with this.

Why a 4 month notice? You need to leave as soon as you can.

It took me 7 months to recover from workplace bullying. Mediation resulted in one sorry. It changed me.

Another friend was bullied and she said it changed her.

4 months is a long notice period, can you not leave any sooner?

When you say they're talking normally to you, do you mean they're being disrespectful again or that they're being better/professional? I'd have thought it's good for them to be acting normally if that means a quiet life and no more bullying. Understand why you want an acknowledgement and apology in return but as you know what they're like and are leaving, that seems unlikely.

Oh sorry it's more 3 months but that's my notice period and the end of the school year (work in a school) and its best to leave then for me.

When I say talk normally it's like it has been for as long as this has been going on, harsh towards me/behind closed doors and fine infront of everyone else.

Having been through something similar, the advice is to email them with the comments they made 'in our recent meeting you said xx, please can confirm this is correct within 48 hours'?

Puts the onus back on them.

Go sick

You have my sympathy. My Head and Deputy Head did.the same to me for two years before I smelt the coffee and fled. If you are in a school they will probably pay you if you are signed off sick with work related stress. If your managers make you cry I would suggest that is what is happening - wrs as a result of bullying.

You need to move away from them asap. Get a union involved if you can. Getting signed off with wrs will give you some breathing space and then you can hand in your notice when you like.

If you teach, I would recommend the "Life after teaching - exit the classroom and thrive" group on Facebook.