So I was in a dv relationship that ended in my beautiful boy ( wouldn’t change that part) my mil was always on my side and would always try and get her son unto treat me better. I got with my ex and right from the start it was a controlling relationship 5 months in I went to uni and he told me he was going to kill him self because I left I had to call the police to find him ( he took this as I cared and got worse) I had to leave uni 3 weeks in as it was so bad about 4 months later it got so bad I had to call the police as he would wait outside my job for me follow me and constantly accuse me of being with other guys the police charged him with control and coercion and he wasn’t to contact me anymore, now I’ll admit I broke that and got in contact as he lost his grandma and I knew how much it would effect him I shortly after this moved in with him he didn’t let me have a key to the flat I would have to drive to his work to get the key and then stay up till 2/3am to let him in when I left for work at 7 am I got pregnant and became incredibly sick I was throwing up 49/50 times a day couldn’t eat or drink anything he would scream at me for being sick and not cleaning the flat or not picking him up from work I ended up in hospital and he didn’t come to visit or ask how I was when I got home he didn’t ask if I was ok he asked me to do his washing I left and moved home where the abuse got worse he’d constantly message accusing me of being at other men’s houses demanding I don’t go near men as the baby might think that they are his dad (still pregnant) my midwives picked up on this and I went to a apt without him and they said and I quote “thank fuck. He sucks the energy out the room” it got to the point he’d spam me at 1/2 am and I had to block him as when I tried to communicate during the day he didn’t care only at night I went through his mum for appointments and updates to keep him informed at my gender scan he screamed at me in the waiting room that I’d ruined the pregnancy for him and ruined the experience I drove him around his family to tell them and he screamed at me the entire time and when I finally had enough he dented my car door by slamming it. He eventually moved on to another woman who I went to school with however he used her to find out if I was going to have him at the birth or on the birth certificate which I didn’t want him at the birth for my safety but he used her to find all this out and I broke down and messaged his mum how upset I was and she went off at me calling me disgusting and how horrible I was calling me an unfit mother and my mum an alcoholic so I blocked contact with all of them as I was 37 weeks pregnant and trying to enjoy the last weeks, I spent weeks getting friend requests of people and my friends asking why they where trying to find info on me. After I had baby I was less then 48. Hours pp when his mum showed up at my door demanding to meet my baby and be involved in his life I was crying in a corner and my mum delt with it I said I needed time to heal from birth before anyone met him they kept pestering me to meet him when she posted on fb asking what rights she had to my child because I was stopping her from being involved I called her and all she said was it was HER grandchild and wouldn’t accept him as mine I finally gave in and let them meet him 2weeks pp fast forward to baby being 1 month old dad still hasn’t met him as I am terrified of him and the baby isn’t safe with him, I went out shopping on my own for the first time and I saw babies dad so avoided him and went to sit at my job for a while to let them leave to avoid confrontation as I went back to my car he was stood waiting watching my car and followed me there shouting at me to meet his son saying why haven’t I let his family meet him when I have half his family refused to have anything to do with him as they are all convinced I will take him away again when all I want is his family involved except his dad, basically I had to call the police again as he was following me and I was terrified the police want to charge him with stalking I’m sorry this is so long but AIBU if I stop all his family seeing baby till after police proceedings/ custody court are over they think I want to keep this baby away from them all when i don’t I am just young a FTM and scared I want his grandparents involved just not the dad AIBU