Have you ever been the CF ...

[DilemmaADay]

Not a TAAT but inspired by the CF house visitors thread. Have you ever accidentally been a visiting CF.

Quite recently I went to visit a friend in her new build she'd bought with her fiancée. I'd driven over 2 hours after work and was tired, so when I was shown in, I was offered a drink and a house tour. I took my shoes off and left by overnight bag at the bottom of the stairs (not blocking at all). Anyway I'd gone into the kitchen as friend was making me a drink and her fiancée walked in and I heard "Oh for fucks sake". We went to investigate and he was looking at my overnight bag in the hallway with my shoes. Apparently they weren't in the designated area I hadn't been told about 🤔. Friend said "oh we can put the bag upstairs" and we took it up.

Maybe I was a CF for just putting my bag anywhere (my house is comfortably 'lived in' and there's is very show homey) but that was a really bizarre reaction...

Yes, I put my pram into BILS car boot without cleaning the wheels. I didn’t know I was supposed to do that, but they did it all the time and he was not happy. I didn’t realise until I heard my sister shushing him.

You're not a CF.

The friends fiance sounds ridiculous!

This wasn't you being a CF, this is him being a dick. I can't imagine living in a house where I can't dump stuff in the hall until I can't be arsed to take it up.

When I visit MIL I'll often pop my empty cup or plate on the coffee table, fully intending to take it to the kitchen soon, just not the very second I'm finished with it. She will almost always scoop it up and take it to the kitchen within 2 minutes. I'm sure she thinks I'm lazy.

Probably many times 😂. I think the true cf has no idea when or how they are being one.

We have all been the CF at some stage, I'm sure. Either because of the way we saw something at the time, or not being fully aware of expectations or full context. Sometimes we're not a CF but perceived that way. So I'll have to answer yes because I think it's inevitable.

I was. Due to to crossed wires admittedly, but ultimately my fault for not checking.

My youngest goes to a SEn school because of complex health needs. I had a hospital appointment at the big hospital in the nearest city in the morning and then I had booked to get my hair cut & coloured while I was in the city. I’d booked her into after school care for the day to give me time.

DD had been off school all week because of multiple appointment so I hadn’t had a single break as DH was away with work and was really looking forward to that hair cut and the chance to recharge a bit.

Sure as fate the night before I get a message saying that her class was closed the next day because the teacher and one of the TAs had covid symptoms.

BIL happened to be at mine when I got the message so was very sympathetic when I had a bit of a frustrated moan etc. then when he got home he obviously told SIL who messaged and offered to come round and mind DD for the day.

She referred to my “plans” and for reasons I still don’t understand I didn’t doubt check with her. We chatted about when I’d need to leave, the traffic and she even recommended somewhere I should go for lunch.

I missed that she was offering hospital appointment plus lunch babysitting. BIL hadn’t mentioned the hair appointment. When she recommended the lunch place I assumed (wrongly) that she was recommending it for the gap between appointment and hair.

I went, had my appointment, went for lunch - including a cringy text to SIL thanking her for the recommendation as it was fab - and then got my hair done while she sat and wondered why the fuck I hadn’t reappeared yet.

It was weirdly awkward for a couple of weeks when I got back as she was silently fuming and I didn’t realise why. Eventually BIL told me she was annoyed that I’d “disappeared” for two hours and we got to the bottom of it. We’re all good now. We do check arrangements very carefully when making them and never rely on BIL for details!

Glad I wasn't been a CF, the fiancee is a dick, I don't particularly like him but nod and smile for my friend.
Some good CF stories here 😁

Yip, loads of times. I used to pick my niece up from nursery when she was small and nobody told me it was my responsibility to get her coat on, fetch her bag, sort all her bits out. I used to stand grinning at the staff and it's only in hindsight I realise they were thinking wtf.

Can I ask what does ‘CF’ stand for?

Cheeky fucker 😊

Yeah. When I was younger I used to be the type of person who would take the booze I took to parties home the next day if I had t drunk them even though I would have drunk the hosts. I crriiiiiinge at it. I would never now.
I did make it up to my pal over the years by taking over bottles of wine and chocs just for her if I was popping over. But yes, I was a CF, and I cringe still thinking about it.