When do I tell him?

[SittingOnTheChair]

Yes, I posted about this before. Several months ago. Its always on my mind. I feel its so unfair that I 'should' tell someone my medical history.

So, I have Multiple Sclerosis. I work full time and you wouldn't know unless I told you.

I've met a man. When should I tell him ?

If you can see this going long term I would tell him straight away to be honest. There's nothing to hide. But if you aren't sure about the relationship and you can't see a future then it's up to you really.

But if its going somewhere and children are on the cards. And I'm assuming could be hereditary, then yes I would tell them before it got any more serious, for a few reasons.

1. If your condition is likely to get worse you need to know that person Is able to continue the relationship and support you.
2. They also need to know, as it could impact their own future depending on how your condition continues its bot uour fault, bit they have the right to know how life could be before proceeding further into the relationship.
3. If kids are a possibility they need to know the facts really and how it may ir may not impact future children genetically and their life and your life as a family.
4. If you had children and they had the same condition, could said partner be there to support you both emotionally and physically.

Whilst I do believe that these things shouldn't matter. A mature view is that they do matter and not everyone can cope with a life long condition in their partner and they have to be very mature and responsible and dependable. And for your own sake you need to know that early on I think. So you feel loved and safe and know they will have your back!

Hope I have explained my view properly
But at the end of the day it'd really up to what you are comfortable with

As soon as possible tbh. If he is going to be put off by it then He’s not the man for you, better to know that sooner than later.

When you describe him as ‘a man’ then I’m thinking not to tell him because your relationship hasn’t progressed emotionally.

I don’t think I’d announce it to anyone unless I felt it would impact on them and it would have no effect on ‘a man’.

I think you deliberately not telling someone is a bit weird though.

Perhaps you are in denial that you have MS and don’t want to acknowledge it.

What does she need to describe him as before she tells him? What a weird thing to say!

I'm past my child bearing age, my own children are fit and healthy, so far.

It's just a 'man' currently. Not even met yet but we are going to.

No need to say anything then!