My hubby, he works so hard, he works long, long hours and he has really hurt his back. My grandma died a few months ago and my grandad died two weeks ago of covid. My grandma was a pest but obviously I still loved her. I didn’t really cry when either of them passed, I guess it didn’t hit me until today. Anyway, hubby has just got home from working away and because of his back being bad I said don’t worry about coming to todays scattering of their ashes. He asked me last night if I wanted him to come with me to the scattering, I said I’d love him too but I’d prefer him to rest his back. So fast forward to this morning and he wasn’t coming with me. His boss then called and asked if he could help him for a couple of hours this morning and so he went to work.
I don’t know if I’m being a dick because he didn’t even ask if it could wait a few hours so he could come with me, he just went to work (his boss definitely would have waited especially in the circumstances) and when I said not to come I was thinking of his health as he has such a manual job. When I brought this up, Hubby said why would he want to go with me today as my grandparents never did anything for him. I said I wanted him to come for me for support. He said no he was going to work. I don’t know if I’m being a dick but I’m really hurting that he couldn’t bring himself to put himself out and be there for me. I just don’t know how to feel. If I’m being a dick, I need to reset my mind and stop feeling sorry for myself