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Financial and asset claim after divorce

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AmyJahabee · 07/04/2023 12:57

My friend was married to a guy she divorce online but got nothing as she didn’t understand she could ask for anything. This guy is 72years old. 4 houses no mortgage good pension and savings. Two adults kids from his previous relationship. Can my friend apply for anything like financial or asset now that they are divorce? Any advice will be appreciated

what is the process to apply. Has anyone applied successfully?

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Testina · 07/04/2023 13:04

Does your friend have a learning disability? (that sounds like sarcasm, but it isn’t)
It seems odd to have managed to be around long enough to get into a marriage but have zero idea that assets are generally considered in a divorce.

You say she divorced online - but do you mean he did it, and she just sat back and did nothing?

The first thing I’d consider - and others will disagree - is the moral position. If she was married to him for say just a year and didn’t change her financial status or potential because of him, then I think it’s immoral to try to take some of his assets now.

What she might be entitled to depends on many factors, including the length of their marriage. What’s really important here is whether she already has a Consent Order agreeing a clean break - but with an online divorce seems unlikely.

What are her actual circumstances, why did she not think of this previously, and why is she now not speaking to a solicitor?

Testina · 07/04/2023 13:10

So did they marry at 29 and 62? 🤮
She sounds - with the age gap and being clueless about divorce - that she might be a vulnerable person?

As you’ve posted this in two sections, it’s worth adding here that it was a 10 year marriage.

AmyJahabee · 07/04/2023 13:11

They were married for 10 years she’s is very poor and eventually got a degree and the guy treating her badly financially he was in control of everything, she will sit at the back when his adult son ( he has two children from previous married) goes out with them, no she didn’t have consent order.

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AmyJahabee · 07/04/2023 13:13

@Testina yes big age gap he always acted as he is doing her a favour by giving her money she is clueless

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NEmama · 07/04/2023 13:18

You need to do financial settlement before divorce?

Testina · 07/04/2023 13:19

Well it sounds like he was doing her a favour giving her money.
Which doesn’t mean he isn’t also an abusive man.

If you already know enough about divorce / her divorce to know that she doesn’t have a Consent Order, I think a better course of action than posting on her behalf here is to accompany her to a solicitor, with all the paperwork from the online divorce.

Testina · 07/04/2023 13:19

NEmama · 07/04/2023 13:18

You need to do financial settlement before divorce?

No you don’t.

NEmama · 07/04/2023 13:22

@Testina that's good.
Speak to solicitor?

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