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to think that valentines is actually a romantic celebration and not for small children?

47 replies

wannaBe · 14/02/2008 11:12

Personally i think that valentines is just a weeze for shops/restaurants etc to make yet more money and as such we don't bother at all.

But I do think that for those that do bother, it's about love and romance and red roses and chocolate and nice meals out etc, and I actually find it quite inappropriate that young children are taught about all that, that parents make cards for their children on valentines so they don't have to go without etc.

valentines is about romantic love, and imo is not for small children.

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pirategirl · 14/02/2008 11:49

love is the thing, i'm on my own with dd 5, and we are having a lovely time of saying ' ilove you' etc...

i think Valentines Day is changing yes, but it's for anyone to enjoy really.

Chequers · 14/02/2008 11:50

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OrmIrian · 14/02/2008 11:50

If it's all about romantic love why do so many old married couples make such a fuss about it? After all it's supposed to be about letting someone know they have a secret admirer isn't it? Not very secret when you've been married for 15 years...

It's a heap of cack anyway

Chequers · 14/02/2008 11:51

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VictorianSqualor · 14/02/2008 11:54

Surely all those on here that are expecting or have recieved(and would've been unhappy without receiving) something from their other half would prefer to be bought them without the force of Clintons or whoever behind it?

IMO, it means much more when your partner buys something, be it flowers, undies, chocolate etc, when they have thought about it and decided to rather than because they ahve seen somewhere an advert saying 'dont forget valentines day'.

flowerybeanbag · 14/02/2008 11:56

Oh good grief when did this start? I had no idea people bought cards for or from their children on Valentine's Day! I won't be! Isn't that what Mother's Day is for? And everyday is children's day!

anniemac · 14/02/2008 11:56

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pooka · 14/02/2008 11:57

A 4 and a half year old girl in dd's reception class got a valentine's card this morning (from another boy in the class).

Insanity IMO. Why are people teaching their children to celebrate valentine's day?

anniemac · 14/02/2008 11:59

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pirategirl · 14/02/2008 12:02

pmsl, now thats a cool card!!

OrmIrian · 14/02/2008 12:03

DS#1 had to make a card for his gf last night. Very nice it was too. But then he announced that he needed a present too. Didn't fancy my offer of some scented Traidcraft candles much, so I ransacked my jewellery box. Thankfully my mum gets a lot of totally gross freebies from various catalogues that she insists on offloading on me .

Stupid thing is that he doesn't even want a gf - she's more of a nuisance to him that anything else it seems. But there we are...

SheherazadetheGoat · 14/02/2008 12:04

i think it was a comment on how society is entrenched in consumerism and how it doesn't make us happy. [strokes beard]

PersephoneSnape · 14/02/2008 12:05

email doing the rounds at work - You?ll be staggered to know more than £500 million will be spent in the UK on cards, flowers and chocolates this Valentine?s Day.

No one seems entirely sure about the origins of Valentine?s Day ? in Roman times February 14 was a holiday to honour Juno the Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also knew her as the Goddess of women and marriage. The following day, February 15, the Feast of Lupercalia would begin.

On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia (Feb 14), the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Every young man would draw a girl's name from the jar and they would become partners for the duration of the festival. Sometimes the pairing lasted an entire year, and often, they would fall in love and eventually marry.

Other people believe Valentine?s Day is associated with one of three Catholic saints, one of whom was martyred on February 14 for refusing to give up Christianity. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer's daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it "From Your Valentine". Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.

Whatever the truth, it?s become a day for lovers and in the UK has some odd traditions associated with it. On Valentine?s Day:

§ Spring traditionally begins because it?s allegedly the day birds choose their mates. In parts of Sussex, Valentine?s Day was called 'the Birds' Wedding Day'
§ the first eligible man an unmarried woman saw would be her future husband
§ if a girl wrote her boyfriends? names on pieces of paper, wrapped them in clay and then dropped the clay into water, the piece of paper which surfaced first would carry the name of her husband-to-be, and
§ if a woman saw a robin flying overhead, it meant she would marry a sailor. If she saw a sparrow, she would marry a poor man and be very happy. If she saw a goldfinch, she would marry a rich person.
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my sons made heart shaped gifts at school holiday club yesterday. my eight year old gave me the card/gift. my nine year old has taken his to school for [i]kirsten.[/i] i bet they spend xmas at HER parents when they get married.

i cut their packed lunch sandwiches into heart shapes. Tonight, i'll do the same for the pizza for tea.

lljkk · 14/02/2008 12:41

Bunch of cynical spoilsports, you lot.

DH surprised me this am with a big V-day display and a few little gifts.
Naughty man, because we don't usually bother, I of course and done nothing for him and can't go out & buy anything, either.
So me and DC have spent hours this morning making cards for DH, most of the ones from DC obstensibly from pets, mind.
But I'm American, so DC can do as much for V-day as they like, in my book.

RosaLuxOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 14/02/2008 13:17

DD3 made a Valentine card for her boyfriend and he made one for her. She is five. They adore each other and walk round the playground holding hands and kissing while her older sisters and their friends make gagging noises. Nobody taught them this - it is a spontaneous display of affection.
And why on earth not. Love is not just sexual - I see no reason not to celebrate the bonds of loving friendship or familial affection.

bulletformyvalentine · 14/02/2008 14:18

wannaBee
yanbu
I sooooooo aggree with your op
(2shoes)

fondant4000 · 14/02/2008 14:33

YABU when dd1 first started this at school I thought it strange - now I'm all for it.

Makes it far less pressurized for teenagers as you don't have to get a valentine from someone who fancies you.

Also it's a good way for the dds to let each other know they care - dd2 decorated a cake for dd1.

I also say spread the love - I think it's much nicer to have day of love than just a day of romantic love (with all the humiliation that can involve for those not romantically involved).

VictorianSqualor · 14/02/2008 16:33

DD has just got in, with a card, from her friend at school, who bought every child in the class a card.
Nice, yes, but what is the point???
It's VALENTINES day, not friends day.

WallOfSilence · 14/02/2008 18:55

Whoever asked, I can't remember.

Yes, the school said they could do it to either parent, or both parents. She chose daddy 'cos he is her favourite!!

And she had a good laugh this afternoon at daddy thinking someone else loves him, when we know it's only us! lol

southeastastra · 14/02/2008 18:57

what a miserable op.

piximon · 14/02/2008 19:08

DS1 turned 5 today. He thinks it's lovely that he's born on (in his words) "the day of love".

This year he said happy valentines day to everyone who wished him for his birthday. Still it beats the previous years when he'd wish everyone a happy birthday back.

Since DS1 was born, DH and I don't really celebrate Valentines day (usually a card, nothing else). It wouldn't occur to me send a card to any of my DCs for it.

saadia · 14/02/2008 19:15

I agree with OP. Dss both brought home cards from school and nursery and I obviously didn't want to belittle their efforts but it's not really appropriate, I don't think they even need to know about it. I don't want to be getting cards from them when they're older. Also, I think it's a bit sad when people become so unaware about the historical background to what they are celebrating.

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