Just had an argument with DH and he has stormed off to bed saying I am really out of order and I just want to know if he's right...
So we don't see my dad loads, he's not retired and works all the time, not the best at keeping in touch and he doesn't see a lot of our DD. It is a failing on his part and I'm not defending him.
DH has made plans for his brother to come over tomorrow afternoon. BIL lives very close to us, only next village but doesn't come over a lot as his GF has social anxiety. He called over a week ago to arrange, asked what time would be best for us etc. so that DD (nearly 3yo) would be on good form as he obviously wants to see her. DH said 2pm. All fine, I'm in agreement that BIL is on the whole a much easier person to deal with than my dad.
My dad called this evening to ask if we were free tomorrow for him to come over and see us all. We tend to see him spur of the moment or not at all so I was quite e pleased that he had decided to make the effort this time. Haven't seen him for a while but slightly more recently than BIL. I said we had plans in the afternoon but would be home and free in the morning and I would check with DH to see what time would be best. I don't see the issue with seeing one of them in the morning for a couple of hours, having lunch and then the other in the afternoon.
DH has had a meltdown because he thinks it's unfair on his brother for DD to have seen someone else in the morning. Saying he will stay too long, she will be in a bad mood by the time BIL arrives etc. I think she will be fine and he is blowing it out of proportion because he doesn't like last minute plans. He has organised something "weeks in advance" (one week n reality) and I am apparently messing with it despite there being no clash. I feel really upset that i am being made to feel like a terrible person and that I don't care about his brother (who I am actually very fond of) just because I thought it would be fine to have a parent round for a cuppa without too much advanced warning. He said he wants a break as hasn't had a holiday in a while which I get, so I offered to take DD out with me to meet her grandad instead but no, that will make her too tired for the afternoon. Also he wants to spend time with her. I work part time and he is full time from home which seems to be relevant to him but again I don't get what that has to do with this.
So... who is BU? I have asked my dad if he can come on Monday instead but realistically if I say no tomorrow there's a good chance I won't see him for a while.