Do you feel pressure to do *Stuff?

[Ateallmykidseggs]

This Easter weekend for example…I’m working a few hours a couple of the days, I’m supposed to be taking Dd, 4 to two different Easter hunts with friends/big groups, a small hunt at home with Dh and the dog and one of her neighbour friends is coming over to decorate Easter biscuits and for a play.
I sort of enjoy this sometimes…once I’m at the events, but a big part of me just cba at all and would secretly much prefer to do a small hunt just us and spend a few days in the garden/going on walks, just as our family.
Does anyone else feel like this? Like you’re ticking off a list of things to be done?
I remember when I was younger and I actively wanted to go out and got excited etc, I’d like to feel like that again!

*Just us as a family

Sure. You have to find a balance.

Feign illness and cancel if you want. We only ever did EAster Egg hunts in the garden. Two big Easter egg hunts sounds like hell to me.

@Luredbyapomegranate I cancel things a fair bit to be honest and then have to attend otherwise how do I keep up friendships etc 🤷🏻‍♀️I also do it for Dds sake but…😫

I remember this feeling, forced fun we used to call it. You don’t have to do all
of it, choose one event and then do some low key things like a visit to the park or a meet up for a walk somewhere as and when you fancy it. I think most parents feel the same tbh.

You just need to pace yourself. Say yes to half as many things as you currently do.

We don't do a lot with others in the holidays. I really appreciate down time/chill time with the kids.

God yes ! It's all about balance, kids need to get bored sometimes, it promotes creativity.

I'm a big fan of going into carcass mode in the holidays! Sleep, screen time, dog walks, time in the garden and very few days out. Let go of the pressure and do what you want! My kids are genuinely as happy playing in the garden all afternoon as they are on a big day out somewhere.

I think it’s good for children to be out and about often, though I sympathise with you.
Send them with your DH or grandparents from time to time.

Or set up a picnic blanket and relax there whilst your DH supervises closely.

Learn to say no or that you’ll get back to them.
I rarely say yes nowadays!

We do nothing and find everyone’s in their family bubbles so I desperately look for stuff to do otherwise it feels like a waste to be sad on the settee everyone on phones