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5 week old baby and I am so boring

50 replies

Babyboree · 06/04/2023 14:18

My baby is 5 weeks old and obviously I spend all my time (minus a few appointments) with them and I love it!

We have had people over or met friends for lunch and have more planned over the bank holiday. l a few times and I feel like I have nothing fo say. All I care about right now is whether my baby has burped, pooed, needing feeding etc. That coupled with being tired and I feel like I am very boring company and have nothing to add to the conversation. If the baby is stirring or fussing I can’t even properly follow the conversation.

Is this normal? I just felt like I had nothing interesting to say and no one wants to hear how pleased I am my baby has done a big burp.

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Weallgottachangesometime · 06/04/2023 21:32

Totally normal. Especially when the baby is only 5 weeks in. Of course that’s all you’re thinking about at the moment, with little time for anything else.

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Babyboree · 06/04/2023 21:38

No one is telling me I am boring - I was just sitting at the table and could not think of anything to say. My mind was completely blank.

Thanks everyone! He is keeping me busy 24/7 so that’s probably why I don’t have time for anything else. Luckily he’s totally adorable!

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WestOfWestminster · 06/04/2023 21:41

He sounds totally amazing op, tell us about him it it helps re set your social skills!!

Definitely get yourself some mum friends to enjoy this weird, special time with.

LBFseBrom · 07/04/2023 06:41

I said yesterday that how you are feeling now is quite normal. However I have to add I am in awe of you, you're quite amazing! With a five week old baby I never wanted to see anybody, hated going out unless I had to and hardly got dressed properly. That too is apparently quite normal too and of course it also doesn't last. We are all different.

Enjoy your baby, they are gorgeous creatures but before you know it they're 30 :-).

QuiltedHippo · 07/04/2023 06:49

This thread is so lovely and normalising, there should be zero pressure to be some sparkling conversationalist at this point. You are doing such an important job and things will change in time. Enjoy your squishy newborn

moomoomoo27 · 07/04/2023 22:59

Yeah you'll probably be like this for the next 10 years, if not longer. It's why parents tend to only see other parents.

Elaina87 · 07/04/2023 23:28

You're massively over thinking. Of course all you can think and talk about is your 5 week old baby. They are 5 weeks old, that's your life right now!

Luredbyapomegranate · 07/04/2023 23:33

Totally normal.

Let yourself be burp obsessed for a bit

No bad thing to be aware of it though

Babyandmexox · 07/04/2023 23:36

I’m still like this 8 months in but I haven’t had a break from her other than a couple of hours here and there and when I’m not with her I miss her. But I am completely ready for a wee break.. just a night out and some adult conversation other than singing nursery rhymes all day and having baby talk.

TommyJoesMummy · 08/04/2023 01:17

Congratulations 💐🎉
It is perfectly normal and I haven’t spoken like a normal adult for years, since the first one fried my brain. Just last month a friend visited me and I couldn’t string a sentence properly because I wasn’t sleeping because the baby wasn’t. Don’t knock the importance of your baby’s bodily functions and the headspace their care takes up!

Teachingteacher · 08/04/2023 05:31

Totally normal. I agree with PP who said that’s why mums hang out together, so they can talk about naps, poos, feeds etc. without boring the other person.

I also recommend listening to podcasts or audiobooks while you’re feeding/changing/going for an walk etc. It gave me something interesting to talk to my DH about instead of the baby. I have a DD who is 7 months, and the first 8 weeks I almost permanently had my AirPods in listening to something. Once she became more engaged at the 8-week mark, I saved the listening to walks and nap times.

SadAsHell · 08/04/2023 05:41

I agree it's totally normal. I actually got to the stage where I didn't want to hang out with other mams because I didn't want to talk only baby stuff. Even though I had little to contribute to other conversations I found it nice to listen to other people's normalities which was so different to mine 🙈 Don't be panicking. You are doing great.

duvetdissident · 08/04/2023 05:47

Dont worry, we were all like that at that stage!

MissTrip82 · 08/04/2023 05:56

Totally normal. The obsession is what’s helping you keep your baby alive.

this is why you join new mums groups and then have to sit patiently while they talk about their boring baby before you can talk about your amazing one.

Justalittlebitduckling · 08/04/2023 07:58

It’s such early days. You’ll get yourself back, don’t worry. It takes time.

LuckySantangelo35 · 08/04/2023 09:39

moomoomoo27 · 07/04/2023 22:59

Yeah you'll probably be like this for the next 10 years, if not longer. It's why parents tend to only see other parents.

@moomoomoo27

disagree with this
most women are able to get back to non child related interested and activities and have friends other than mum friends

ramanw · 08/04/2023 09:40

Totally normal. I felt like that for about 3 years. All I talked about was baby stuff but luckily all my friends had babies at the same time, so that is literally all I talked about.

I was boring as fuck for a long time. My second had just turned 3 and I am finally starting to be a bit less boring!!

readbooksdrinktea · 08/04/2023 09:47

moomoomoo27 · 07/04/2023 22:59

Yeah you'll probably be like this for the next 10 years, if not longer. It's why parents tend to only see other parents.

Ten years is extreme. Five months is normal.

readbooksdrinktea · 08/04/2023 09:48

readbooksdrinktea · 08/04/2023 09:47

Ten years is extreme. Five months is normal.

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.... as is five weeks. Of course.

moomoomoo27 · 08/04/2023 11:44

readbooksdrinktea · 08/04/2023 09:47

Ten years is extreme. Five months is normal.

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Once you have kids you don't realise how much you talk about them and how boring it is to those of us without. By the time the oldest kid is 10 you can generally have a conversation with a parent without getting interrupted and without it having to be about something directly related to their kids.

Yes there's a difference from the 24/7 baby stage, but not much. Some years are even worse, like the running off toddler stage.

SadAsHell · 08/04/2023 11:55

moomoomoo27 · 08/04/2023 11:44

Once you have kids you don't realise how much you talk about them and how boring it is to those of us without. By the time the oldest kid is 10 you can generally have a conversation with a parent without getting interrupted and without it having to be about something directly related to their kids.

Yes there's a difference from the 24/7 baby stage, but not much. Some years are even worse, like the running off toddler stage.

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How rude!!!! Obviously a parent is going to talk about their children, they consume a huge part of our day / our lives! I'm sure you talk about shite other people don't necessarily have a huge interest in but they listen and engage because that's what nice friends do! I do admit I do hate the 24/7 baby talk but to expect a conversation when they are not mentioned at all is very rude imo. People are just sharing info of what's going on in their lives. Simples!

Sertadopt · 08/04/2023 12:10

I adopted my baby when she was 11 months old. I remember walking down the street with her in the pram and wondering why people were walking past her not stopping to look and say how amazing she is 😂 Becoming a parent is a funny thing. I read your post OP and it made me laugh/smile out loud remembering this and remembering how lovely it felt to have her and love her like I hadn’t loved anyone or anything before. Just enjoy it, you are allowed to be obsessed with your baby. Your friends will still be there when baby gets to the toddler stage and you need to a large glass of wine and some adult chat 😂

ilovesooty · 08/04/2023 12:23

moomoomoo27 · 08/04/2023 11:44

Once you have kids you don't realise how much you talk about them and how boring it is to those of us without. By the time the oldest kid is 10 you can generally have a conversation with a parent without getting interrupted and without it having to be about something directly related to their kids.

Yes there's a difference from the 24/7 baby stage, but not much. Some years are even worse, like the running off toddler stage.

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I'm sorry you've had that experience. I'm child free and have managed to maintain friendships with those who have become parents. One of my closest friends had her second baby a month ago. She was happy for me to visit last week and we talked about her new baby, her elder daughter, how she was feeling and a number of other things.

Sennelier1 · 09/04/2023 18:27

Just tell your friends and family that right now, you're no good for adult conversation, I'm sure they will understand, recognize, respect what you're saying 😊 they might keep you updated so you can move in again in a few months 💖

Sophie89j · 09/04/2023 22:55

I found until I went back to work I was boring too and had literally no thoughts to what or how to socialise 😂 it’s ridiculous but so real!

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