Context: I live with my new husband and two kids from my previous marriage aged 9 and 13. I can't work due to disability both in myself and my children (they often need time off school and have lots of appointments).
Due to money/COVID we've never been able to take the kids abroad. They desperately want to experience blue seas, a ride on an aeroplane and a bit of adventure. He's said he was okay with me going alone with them as he wants to save his work holiday time.
This school holidays, I've finally been able to afford passports and the money to take us away. I could do a short (2-3 night) cheap deal. However, because of various hospital appointments for the kids, the only day I can fly out is my 2nd wedding anniversary.
My husband has made it quite clear that he is deeply unhappy about this. He's made me feel really cr*ppy about it, especially as recently he's been telling me I need to start putting him above my kids and sending me articles to read about your marriage coming first before your children.
For info, though:
- He's not booked any time off work this holiday to do anything with us. I'd love it if he came too!
- Last year he worked on our anniversary, and didn't even get me a card.
- This year, he will be working his usual 10-14 hour day anyway, so at most I'll see him for a couple of hours in the evening.
As he's never made a big deal of the anniversary and clearly didn't want to do anything because he's working, I'm quite surprised he's even bothered about me not being there! It seems he wants me to miss the chance of our first holiday so I can stay at home and wait for him to return from work to enjoy a supermarket steak meal deal like last year?
So, AITA? Am I being unreasonable? Genuinely not sure...