To throw the shit over the fence (only half-joking)

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Sorry this is long but im losing the will to live and on the verge of tears. My neighbour is awful. First night we moved in, her ex boyfriend drunkenly pissed in our front garden (he didn't think I saw)

Since then, she's stuck things to our window, taken our parking spaces hundreds of times, loudly disturbed on purpose while I've had clients over, jumped on my husband's car, trashed the outside of our houses and had countless fights in the street at all hours, one involved smashing up a car. Most people on this street have either called the police, reported her to her housing association, or reported her to social services (her kids have been taken). We often have police at the door looking for her. I can't list everything as there's just so much but I hate our first home that we worked so hard for and it's having a hideous effect on my mental health and my ability to teach from home- my full time income.

She now has 2 dogs, and her fence is missing a panel at the end. She's since moved the shed that was blocking it, and they are able to get through. 2 days in a row, I've asked (told) her to block it up and come round and clear up the enormous piles of dogshit these 2 are leaving.

I'm at my wits end, I just want to move, and she refuses to take accountability. I've found myself fancying leaving the side gate open so the dogs can escape next time they come into our garden to teach her to keep them confined, or simply throw it over the fence on top of her half finished second hand conservatory that's been in progress for months.

We have tried blocking it but they still burst through, and it's not our fence or our responsibility.

If I report it nothing gets done. I don't know what my AIBU is but I just needed a handhold or advice :(

My husband wants to just bury the shit and keep the peace but I'm struggling.

Just leave your side gate open.

Leave the side gate open. Easier to deny any responsibility that way.

Leave the gate open, not your problem then

Yes, leave the side gate open and throw the poo over into her garden.

I would be catapulting the shit straight at her windows. I'm not even joking. Disgusting behaviour to let her dogs do that!

We had this problem.

I wouldn’t want escapee dogs to be hurt or frightened on my conscience though. The fault is squarely with the owner, not them.

A very robust 6ft fence went up. It wasn’t our responsibility either but it stopped their kids as well and made life bearable. Money well spent.

Oh. And the mess was thrown back over.

Problem is I don't want to touch it. I don't even want to LOOK at it but it's right outside my back door on the patio. 3 huge piles of it

Buy a cheap plastic spade and catapult it over. Seriously.

I know it is their responsibility but I would put up a strong fence anyways. We had to do it, and the nieghbour would not contribute to the cost. We put it on our side of the property line.

Your neighbours sound so horrible, I feel for you, good luck.

Contact the HA
by not containing her animals she is in breach of tenancy.

Yes I think I call them tomorrow as well as the council as I know they can fine public fouling but they might help me

I know a woman who got so sick of her neighbour (who was the post mistress) letting her dogs out to shit in front of others houses (no front gardens, front door leads to pathway) that she collected the shit for a few days, these were big dogs and big dogs = big shite, put the shit in a bag and then went a queued in the post office, the post mistress and her shitty dogs lived over it, when it was her turn she handed over the bag of shit saying 'this is yours, what day suits next week for the next bag", that finished it - no more dogs running free around the village, cleverly she'd waited til pension day so the post offce was full of locals collecting their pension and having a gossip.

Love it!

first do not retaliate against them, record the dog fouling on you're garden,
second, pick up the dog waste in dog bags, you will se why in a second,
the dog waste can be used in DNA to prove it came from her/his dog,
3rd, tell you're neighbour you are about to take them to court,
law on dog's fouling on other people property,
Dogs (Fouling of Land) Act 1996
3.—(1) If a dog defecates at any time on designated land and a person who is in charge of the dog at that time fails to remove the faeces from the land forthwith, that person shall be guilty of an offence unless— (a) he has a reasonable excuse for failing to do so; or (b) the owner, occupier or other person or authority having control of the land has consented (generally or specifically) to his failing to do so. (2) A person who is guilty of an offence under this section shall be liable on summary conviction to a fine not exceeding level 3 on the standard scale

hope this helps,

Leave the gate open and report her. That's no way to live.

I’d post it through her letterbox. Absolute twats. Report to the HA op x

I wouldn't leave the gate open as I couldn't live with myself if anything happened to the dogs.

I would, absolutely scoop the poo up with a spade and fling it back over the fence.

Please don't leave the gate open, it's not their fault and if anything happened to them it would be awful, plus things would escalate with your neighbour if you do this

They sound horrendous, throwing it back over may have repercussions for you and I think they've put you through enough.
Leave the side gate open.

Disgusting that people are saying to leave the side gate open which could lead to the dogs being killed on the road. Why the fuck should they suffer because their owner is a fucking dick? I cannot believe that anyone could suggest this and mean it FFS.

As for the situation OP - mend the fence yourself and move. We have been in a situation where we have appalling neighbours and we stuck it out for far too long but moved eventually after the toll on my mental health became too much. People like this never change. Get your house ready to sell.

Husband has been shown how to Google things now and accepts that you don't bury dogshit, especially in your own garden. sigh

Neighbour's latest boyfriend was told very firmly that the shit needs to disappear in the next 15 minutes, and their fence needs fixed. Once he saw the amount of it, he very quickly offered to pressure wash the patio for us. Fence now blocked on their side and no sign of the little buggers since. I think he is learning just how hated she is round here and is trying to be a good neighbour in the hopes she will follow his lead. Has been sorted, she's still a nightmare but I've heard on the grapevine she is trying to do a council house swap sort of thing, so I'll be praying to the universe she gets it and the new inhabitants aren't worse.

To the PP who said to move, it's definitely something we are working and saving towards - couple more DIY bits to do and some more saving, but one day I'll be free of this street!