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To vent about my problems to Mumsnet because in real life it's too hard?

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NoellaFruitella · 05/04/2023 21:14

NC for this. Wasn't sure which topic to post under so feel free to move if needed. Can I just rant/vent get everything off my chest here, don't mind if I get no replies I just want to get it out.
I'm a 41 year old mum of 4 ranging from 22 to 8 years old. My 3 eldest are from a previous relationship and they have no contact with their dad through their own choice.
My current partner I've been with for almost 12 years and he's the most brilliant man. However we haven't had sex for a year now, we discuss it agree it needs to change etc and nothing does.
I should add my teenage daughter is currently battling anorexia, it's the single most hardest thing I've dealt with as a parent. I work full time as does DP. DD's anorexia is a full time job in itself, dp is supportive but I don't think he totally gets it,
I feel like everyday I get up and just face the same problems day in day out. I have good friends around me and a supportive family but for some reason I don't go to them when I find things overwhelming.
I spoke to my GP and was put on antidepressants although I'm off them now, I'm not depressed I just wanted somewhere to write everything down so if you've read my rant then thank you

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Xiaoxiong · 05/04/2023 21:23

This is exactly my favourite thing about Mumsnet - you can talk about issues without feeling like you're burdening anyone.

I hear you and it sounds so hard - handhold and sending strength.

mariaantonia · 05/04/2023 21:26

Hi, I've read. I think sometimes we don't confide because we are finding things too tough, and too boring for others to hear. But it's not a rant, and it's good to get it out.
So I don't have much advice sadly but hang in there @NoellaFruitella, I hope things start getting better soon. Flowers

DustyLee123 · 05/04/2023 21:28

So is it you, him or both that don’t want sex ?
Sounds like you are having a hard time, and it’s hard to get in the mood when you’ve got such a lot to think about.

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NoellaFruitella · 05/04/2023 21:28

Xiaoxiong · 05/04/2023 21:23

This is exactly my favourite thing about Mumsnet - you can talk about issues without feeling like you're burdening anyone.

I hear you and it sounds so hard - handhold and sending strength.

Thank you, this is why I love Mumsnet too. I'm a long time poster but some things I feel need a name change

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NoellaFruitella · 05/04/2023 21:28

mariaantonia · 05/04/2023 21:26

Hi, I've read. I think sometimes we don't confide because we are finding things too tough, and too boring for others to hear. But it's not a rant, and it's good to get it out.
So I don't have much advice sadly but hang in there @NoellaFruitella, I hope things start getting better soon. Flowers

Thank you

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Anetra · 05/04/2023 21:29

Ah fuck you’re having a time of it aren’t you x

Happy to read your vents (takes my mind off my own shit show)

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NoellaFruitella · 05/04/2023 21:30

DustyLee123 · 05/04/2023 21:28

So is it you, him or both that don’t want sex ?
Sounds like you are having a hard time, and it’s hard to get in the mood when you’ve got such a lot to think about.

To be honest a bit of both I think. We're both too exhausted with work and dealing with dd I think, we're still very much in love and show each other affection all the time. I've no concerns about cheating

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NoellaFruitella · 05/04/2023 21:31

Anetra · 05/04/2023 21:29

Ah fuck you’re having a time of it aren’t you x

Happy to read your vents (takes my mind off my own shit show)

Thank you, happy to listen to you too, takes my mind off my shit show

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