My life is a mess! Don’t know what do

[Alwaystired9]

I’ve been with my hubby for 7 years and we have 3 DC’s im late twenties.

I’m struggling with being a mum to my 3 kids I do my best but I just know it isn’t enough.

I don’t have much close family only my mum really and she is an hour away!

My relationship with DH is awful we probably should walk away from each other but deep down we are scared and don’t want to split the kids up and we’re all each other has.

Im extremely lonely I have no friends and no one to talk to.

I need to get back into work but I don’t think I’m good enough to be employed. I’m very forgetful and just all over the place.

I keep thinking about running away but then I think about my poor kids and how much it will affect them.

I just don’t know where to start I’m nothing like the person I use to be. I’m not sure why I’m posting here maybe someone will have some advice for me.

Baby steps! Just do one thing at a time.

To start with apply for jobs and see how things go. Just one application at a time until you find something.

The rest will start to slot into place once you get a job. You will gain friends, confidence and gain perspective. This will help you to tackle the other areas of your life that you are unhappy with. Just do it one step at a time and try not to overthink it.

good luck

7 years and 3 kids is a lot and it's no wonder you are feeling the way you do. Sounds like you've lost your identity and mojo.
Has your DH got a good job? Would you be able to afford childcare for 3 kids while working? Have you got good qualifications or would you need to get work skills?
You're still young. The kids will get older and you'll have more free time to broaden your horizons.
Have you got anyone in RL that you could talk this through with?

Pick one small thing and build from there. It is too much to try to fix the whole thing in one go.

We can afford for me to stay home but I think it’s probably not good for my mental health anymore and I would like to earn my own money. I’m just so miserable and sad
everyday feels like a chore, constant washing cleaning cooking changing nappies and I have no motivation or energy. I just want to be me again but I feel like I’m too far gone.

I have a level 5 qualification in HR but I’ve left it so long I’d be to nervous to get back into the field.