AIBU to find this rude?

[Oneborneverydecade]

Went to visit my parents. Haven't seen them for a few weeks as they've been away. My Dad greeted me then left the room. After brief chat I suggest to Mum go into living room. Dad is in there on phone, he continues call for 5 mins or so. Makes it tricky for Mum & I to chat but fair enough he was there first. He then asks how I'm doing.
Almost immediately my brother calls. Dad takes the call. My problem is he makes no effort to keep the call short (they are in regular contact including whilst away) nor to leave the room. So I'm sat in silence whilst the important man takes his important call. By the time I've finished my tea I've got the hump and mouth to Mum he's being rude.
She's doesn't think it's rude but in hindsight she does the same even if there's only 2 of us there. Words are spoken and I leave.
My argument is I don't think they'd behave like this in front of anyone else (except possibly my brother). We've had a couple of fallings out but generally get on. I visit once a fortnight or so.
It all sounds very pretty written down.

You sound quite difficult if you expect all attention on you the entire time just because you don’t visit very often.

You were also rude to follow your dad into the room where he was using the phone.

And it was wrong of you to try and being your mum into it by mouthing at her.

If he was on the phone to your brother why couldn’t you have just joked about getting a word in with him.

Do you feel in competition with your brother?

important man takes his important call

You followed him in there and were chatting to your mum. Going sitting in there talking when he was mid call on that first call was rude. The whole thing is very petty.

I'll try to answer a few points

I followed my Mum into the room, she went in and sat down so I don't feel I was rude to come in whilst he was on the phone

We couldn't chat during his phone calls because it's quite a long room and he was sat between us. We'd have had to speak pretty loudly to be heard

I don't feel in competition with my brother - it would have annoyed me whomever was on the call. I mentioned it was my brother because to my mind it's easier to say "I'll give you a call back in a mo" to family

I can't disagree it's petty. It's just a difference of opinion - I think it's rude and they don't - that's echoed by the responses on here

We couldn't chat during his phone calls because it's quite a long room and he was sat between us. We'd have had to speak pretty loudly to be heard

Again, you both followed him in and sat there, on either side of him while he was ok the phone… that’s rude on yours and your mums part if anyone’s.

Ehh according to you suggested to your Mum that you guys go in to the living room where he was already on a call.
Your mum didn’t initiate going in.

My DF always has his phone on at all times and insists on answering all calls/replying to all texts immediately even if we are sat eating dinner, drives me mad. He pounces on his phone in a panic, it's like he thinks if he doesn't reply within a minute it will blow up!

So, yeah your df was rude!

For God’s sake, it’s family. Not guests visiting when, yes, it would be rude.

You both followed him into the room where he was on the phone and then you got the hump when you couldn’t speak - because he was on the phone you knew he was on.

It all sounds like very hard work. Why not just relax?

From your OP:

After brief chat I suggest to Mum go into living room. Dad is in there on phone

You said you suggested to your mum to go into the living room where your dad was in the phone? In your op that’s what you said. Changed now to you just followed mum in?

🙄

The things people get worked up about…..!

And more than that, the things people get so worked up about that they’re moved to start a thread on MN about it….. 🤯

After brief chat I suggest to Mum go into living room

I followed my Mum into the room, she went in and sat down so I don't feel I was rude to come in whilst he was on the phone

well she went in after you suggested it…😄

I don't think he was being rude

Not rude. I wouldn’t expect the same level of etiquette and formality when visiting a close family member than I would with others. It’s much more relaxed. They’re your parents fgs. Stop being so uptight.

In a fairness its you in the wrong, your dad left room and you decided to follow. Could have just as easily turned back and left him to his phone call. Almost like your jealous tbh

I wouldn't fall out over it. We tend to take our loved ones for granted..
You could have gone into the other room with your mum instead of sitting their.
Parents are precious and life's short.

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