More often than not posting on MN feels like inviting being trolled or asking for a mental kick in

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As above. Having a tough week / month money wise so post on the cost of living thread and first two replies are saying what's the point of my post and I'm a marty No, just looking to save some money. I thought that was the point of that board. I'm not a marter

There are some real arseholes on aibu, thankfully most mners on here appear to be decent people
Spelling and grammer police? Get over yourselves you are both rude and pointless to the conversation.

I've been Lurking on here for about 20 odd years and only started commenting on threads the last few months. I think you need to take a lot of what is said on here with a massive pinch of salt. The keyboard warriors a very brave behind their screens but they mean fuck all to me in real life.
I'm dyslexic to so cant wait for the grammar Nazis to come for me I'll enjoy that.
But saying all that there are people on here who really do want to help and give amazing advice so its a case of filtering them out if that makes sense.

You have to think of Mumsnet as being a bunch of random people of different backgrounds, experience and views on life.

If you're walking down the street and need directions, you will naturally gravitate to someone who looks safe/approachable/reasonable to you. The sort of person who will either help or apologise and say they can't. You avoid the person doing kung fu kicks in their dressing gown, you avoid the person drinking strong lager, you avoid the guy who looks like his day isn't complete if he hasn't punched someone yet.

On an internet forum you don't have the chance to apply this sort of safety filter. Effectively you're the person standing in the street announcing you need advice and waiting for passers-by to stop and assist. If you do this in real life you won't always get useful or appropriate answers, and the same goes online.

This is a joke, right?

Dear god. I hope that was an honest question and not sarcasm. Dyslexia is not just a few wrongly spelled words. Dyslexics, shuffle words round, use the wrong tenses, replace a word with a similar word (which might be correctly spelled) add random punctuation - it can be hard to be sure what the person means without a lot of context (the spell check does not know mumsnet can be a right nest of vipers and this is key subtext). It is not fixable by by a computer who can't guess what you were trying to say. Just accept the fact there will be errors and move on. The op also reads like there is some distress and it is written in haste. Have a bit of heart and just answer the op's question.

I agree completely OP. MN used to be a place you could come for support or for some straight talking level headed women.

It’s absolutely the last place I’d come looking for support if I’m low because I’m not resilient enough for the kicking. And the ableism is just depressing.

There are always normal, kind posts too if you can sift out the trolls. But that’s a big ask if you’re feeling low to start with.

It's definitely got worse compared to a few years ago, imo. It's years since I've been brave enough to start a thread in AIBU, but I used to do it all the time 10-12 years ago!

I never post my own threads about anything big anymore. So nothing about my relationships or life choices.
I don’t want people’s views on whether I’m being unreasonable or not because if I think I’m in the right with something I don’t care what anyone else has to say. So AIBU is definitely not for me. And I’m still wary about what threads I post on the support boards too, because again it invites people to have an opinion and I don’t want to hear it unless I specifically ask for it. Very much like real life to be honest. I hate unwanted opinions.

Sorry! Wrong thread. I've reported my post and asked for it to be withdrawn.

As you were.

Well I just roll my eyes at the dyslexic stuff. I had it drummed into that I was stupid as a child and that will never ever leave me. But I had a job as a senior programmer for a top three global IT company and a bachelors of science. But MN proves to me that if your child is dyslexic don't kid yourself things or attitudes have changed.
Yes it's true its like randomners on the street, I will try to remember that.
The threads about my family members cancer has comforted me recently. You can't scream and cry and do the why her while your supporting the family and its nice to know it's still valid to feel its very unfair and sad without living under the same roof.
I will go back to my cost of living thread and if I do not go into overdraft this month, pat myself on the back, rather than feeling like a prick I don't have the spare cash I need for random not routine expenses this month.

Ah Good, this week's "Wah everyone's so mean on here' thread.

It hasn't.

Yeah it can become very cringy at times.

Just recently posted about a familial issue, whilst I appreciated that most of the comments were telling me I was being wrong and gave me some perspective, the way they started to shame me, calling me all sorts and making huge assumptions over my life was astonishing to say the least.

At one point the assumptions gotten so bad after I stopped replying it became ridiculous lol they made up this whole life (my life) and my personal character good enough for a story book. They just carried on, and discussed it like they were true facts...

In my opinion, it has, Neededanewuserhandle. I've been here since 2010 on and off and have several reasons for my view.

Another one who just can't help themselves. It's pathetic really.

And, in case the concept is a hard one for you to grasp, let me explain it to you: an opinion is exactly that, no-one is claiming it is YOUR reality or YOUR opinion or YOUR point of view.

And @Florissante claiming to have posted on wrong thread until they get pulled up on it 😂What thread were you supposed to post on? Just own your own shit

Absolutely. There’s one board I made the mistake of posting on. I agreed with the general groupthink on there but felt it could be more nuanced. The nastiness and arrogance was quite shocking. And the pile on all joining in to put me in my place. There’s one particular theme on MN and if you deviate from ‘conventional’ thought you get your arse handed to you.
I too have been on here years and agree that it’s very different. Maybe just a change in user base, more guys posting, folk with an agenda who knows.

@Florissante Why on earth are you questioning the OP about this? Nothing better to do than pick on neurodiverse posters?

I was shocked to see the nastiness is more common in Chat now too, when I came back after a few months break.