Anyone gone off and stayed off the idea of a relationship ever again?

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It's a totally new feeling, could be due to being in an abusive relationship.

I'm 41 and the idea of wanting a partner has just evaporated but it's totally new as my entire life up to splitting up with ex I craved and felt I needed a partner. I needed to be loved romantically and had the idea I had to share my life with a man.

Could be as I am now a mother and feel fulfilled.

I wonder if I will ever want a man again, I know it could just be an adjustment, only been under a year of being single but I was already out of love and trapped in a horrid relationship before that, and before that also.

Last "good" guy was 2002! So maybe it's just forgetting what that was like?

Has anyone felt this way then wanted a relationship again?

I just think it's interesting that I completely do not want a partner and feel like I never will again.

Ive been single since 2018, i have no desire to ever share my money, bed, or tv remote with another person ever again. Atm its just me and my teenage children, we have a good life, I cant see me wanting that to change even when they go off to uni and their own homes etc. I like the freedom, not having to justify random purchases, binge watching what i want whilst eating what i want. My hobbies include an online game where theres always people online of an evening to talk to, that i have good 15 year + long friendships with, so i never feel lonely. Im happily single.

I have no interest in living with a man again but I’d like to have a regular gentleman caller for dates and other things!

I just want to keep it at that level, I don’t want to share finances or worry about someone else’s appointments or habits.

In my ideal world, there would be a rugged, bearded, tattooed gentleman who wants to spend 2 nights a week together, goes home when I want time alone, but accompanies me to restaurants, gigs and on the occasional holiday.

I also want the moon on a stick.

I'm 50 and have been (mostly) very happily single for 17 years. On a few occasions over the years I have pondered on whether it might be quite nice to be in a relationship again, but it clearly doesn't appeal as I have never made any effort to change my single status. I certainly don't ever intend to share a home with another person who isn't a blood relative. I have come to treasure the autonomy I have in my life.