Who has been cheated on in their marriage please

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Just curious and want to know honestly/anonymously how many married women have been cheated on by their spouse? I have, and it’s something I am trying to work through (though of course he is doing the work!) I don’t expect the marriage to last, but I hope it is something we can eventually move on from.

So id like a rough idea of how many of us actually know for certain we have been cheated on - whether you chose to stay or leave. As from speaking to women IRL sadly it seems far more common than I thought.

YABU - I have never been cheated on to my knowledge.

YANBU - I have been cheated on.

It's mostly good. Few niggles every now and again but usually completely unrelated.

I made the decision that I wouldn't bring up the affair in anger and throw it back at him and I can say that I never have. We have occasionally talked about aspects of it (or her) but always calmly and without attitude.

I appreciate that this might not work for all but it seems to be working so far for us.

My brother cheated on his wife
She forgave him
He did it again
She'd packed his bags the day she found out and I don't blame her

I'd not have given him a second chance the first time round!!!

I suspected he was cheating with the 17 year old slutty neighbour. Other people mentioned seeing him giving her morning lifts. I asked him but he denied it. Months later he emotionally checked out even more than usual.
I knew it was over when he started going down on me in bed he never did before. He told me he loved me but not the same as he used to. Broke my heart for a while.

I didn't actually find out till 2 weeks after he'd left. He was so lazy I couldn't believe he'd finally packed his stuff & gone. 2 weeks later he said he couldn't pick DD up from school to go to the traditional end of year picnic with her friends...she was having to leave that school because he'd left, & was gona be coming to my school with me. Instinct made me ask if there was someone else & there was, I felt so stupid. Turned out she lived in another country & they'd started talking online/phone just after we'd finished marriage counselling 5 months earlier, which we both said had gone well. Him moving out & her moving to UK had been planned for 2 months before it happened & all his family knew, yet were still pretending to make plans with me for the summer holidays when I asked.

My first husband cheated various times with one night stands. I was very young & had 3 young children so turned a blind eye, I eventually left him when the drinking & violence got too much. Obviously should have left when that first started, but I was so young, & daft.

Thought I'd never trust a man again but my 3rd hubby is amazing, he's my soul mate. (His 1st wife cheated on him, causing the end of their marriage.)

There's a lot of it about unfortunately.

Thank you all for sharing - unsurprisingly it doesn’t make me feel any better that there are so many scumbags out there like the adulterous prick I unfortunately married. I still haven’t left my husband - I find everything too complicated and overwhelming about splitting for good, the money the house the kids, I don’t know if I can do it. I am still repulsed by him and I definitely don’t expect the marriage to last. Maybe he’ll need to cheat and get caught another time or two before I kick him out for good. Good luck to you all, hope you get or find the loyalty and happiness we all deserve.

My husband cheated on me for several years with a woman at work. We were going through infertility and IVF. There are no excuses but our marriage was not good. We are still together and have two children. It’s very difficult at times and there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about it. I’ll never see him in the same way but I still don’t want to throw away what we have. It’s four years since I found out and I see that as relatively early days.