Long time reader, but new poster. I feel guilty, and already apologized but that's enough for him.
So husband has 3 kids , none of them are biologically mine but I have been in their lives since oldest was 5 and youngest 1. Their bio mom isn't in the picture. So they call me mom and I pretty much do everything a mother is "supposed" to do.
My husband and I are very overweight. I have diabetes and as a result changed completely my diet.
So, I cook their food, then mine. Morning is cereals, pancakes or bread. Lots of sugar. We all take it together though. Dinner is often take away or nuggets.
My "step" ( I hate that word) daughter now aged 11, asked me one day if she could try my breakfast instead of hers. I said yes. She loved the lentils. The past 8 months, she has been eating like me. Of course I make sure to meet the needs of an 11yo instead of someone of my age and weight. It is not a diet to lose weight.
We make a weekly menu and cook together.
Recently, my husband has been acting weird. Then all of a sudden he told me " I am sick of you feeding my child olives, tomatoes or your sh*t healthy stuff. You are ruining her childhood. Maybe you are diabetic but she isn't you. Stop projecting. So tomorrow I want to see her eat pasta and nuggets instead of your fancy chicken and brown rice".
I told him that it wasn't fair. She is the one who cries for pickles or steals olives when dinner isn't ready. Then I said
" Maybe you should try my fancy chicken instead of eating burgers everyday. You want your daughter to be like me later in live? Diabetic? You are such a bad father"
I know it wasn't a good thing to say. I apologized. But that's not enough. He stopped talking to me " I will talk to you again once you'll get rid of all your garbage food".
Aibu?