I had a baby shower as I am
currently expecting my first big deal for me and DH because we have been through a lot which all our friends and family know.
My ‘best friend’ ( I wonder now if she is) approached my husband who was talking to my parents and said ‘can we have a chat in private’ my parents and husbands were all
shocked and uncomfortable but my husband though maybe there was something wrong with her so off he went.They both walked through a crowd of me and my other friends - her face like thunder.All my friends asked what’s that about? I had to say I didn’t know thought it gave me an odd feeling.Luckily my mum had my back,she went into the corner and listened and what my mum told me she heard was identical to what my very uncomfortable husband also came and immediately relayed to me .Question is AIBU?
she told him that she considers him a friend too and he can tell her anything in confidence even if it’s about me !!! My DH politely declined and said that we communicate well enough and like to sort out any issues in private at as team.She then said are you sure you’re ok about being a dad ? He said he didn’t know what response she expected from saying something so stupid she then back tracked and said she admires his honesty then she proceeded to tell him all about her ex and asked what she should do with her life he said he couldn’t help with this.
I try to keep her at arms
length recently because she makes my DH and I feel uncomfortable already by overstaying her welcome and treating our home like her party house.( she’s is older but still lives at home and is single)She even started inviting herself over for events like Easter - which we usually do with our families.I wouldn’t have a problem any of my other friends joining but she almost forced herself in and we had to put our foot down.
I messaged her explaining what I had heard and asking what it was about and was it an attempt to build a relationship with my DH because that was not the best way of going about it and it made me feel undermined.I also asked if she was ok and said I have noticed recently she’s been really unhappy with her life.
she said she never said any of it.Swore at me and said she will never speak to my DH again and she was just checking in telling him she’s there for both of us. She also called my parents and my DH a liar and said I was choosing them over her.She threw back in my face every nice things she’s ever done for me which I explained to her was irrelevant I was just trying to express I felt a boundary had been crossed.She also said I think I’m so much better than her because I have a house a DH and a baby on they way .I don’t think I should be friends with this person anymore AIBU?