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Any other biker wives/gfs?

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Zanzibarz · 04/04/2023 16:44

My DH is absolutely obsessed with motorbikes. He's always talking to me about them, but most of it goes over my head. I try to be interested and even watch all programmes on Bikes and cars etc with him, but I still find it difficult to follow. Recently, he went on a four-day holiday with his old man to the Isle of Man, and of course, he was eager to share all the details with me. I love that he has such a strong passion for bikes, but it's just not my cup of tea.
I often wonder what other biker wives do. Do they share their partner's interest or resent the bike? Personally, I don't resent his hobby. I know a blast on the bike helps him clear his head and relieve stress, so I would never ask him to get rid of it.

However, hearing about bikes constantly can be incredibly dull. Have any other partners educated themselves about bike stuff just because their significant other is always harping on about it? I almost feel a duty to do so since I don't want to seem uninterested or make him feel like I'm not listening

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TellHimDirectlyInDetail · 04/04/2023 16:45

even watch all programmes on Bikes and cars etc with him, does he do the same for you?

flawless29 · 04/04/2023 17:18

My partner is exactly the same, his brothers friend came all the way from Australia to stay with us before going to the TT and i was sick and tired as all they were talking about was their bikes and wanting to go out on rides leaving me at home cause i'm pregnant I do like bikes and might get one in the future but the way they talk about it drives me insane!!! Magazines every month for the bikes and the cars!!! and hes already looking for a quadbike for little man...god help me!

ChickenDhansak82 · 04/04/2023 17:29

My DH loves bikes. If he is not watching the motoGP on TV, he is tinkering in the garage with his bikes or looking at helmets and leathers online! Yawn!

He knows I'm not interested so doesn't talk to me about it much any more. He used to, so I'd then bore him with my geeky interests and watch his eyes gloss over. We agreed not to bore each other 😂

MILLYmo0se · 04/04/2023 17:41

DP has bikes since he was 16, spends most of his free time in the shed working on one or other of the 2 current ones or out on a spin but he doesnt talk about them much - aside from a rant when the repairs arent going well. I enjoy the road races too and we d both watch them on tv (and i ll watch pretty much anything Guy Martin does) but neither of us would be into Moto GP

RunnyPaint · 04/04/2023 17:47

I used to ride bikes, was married to a biker and still have lots of biker mates. Some of the chat would be about bikes, but not all of it, as we are all well-rounded individuals capable of discussing a wide range of topics... My current DH loves football and will talk with like-minded people about the subject for hours, but he recognises that it's not something I will engage (sensibly) with 😁 You could try my approach of making stupid jokes until he gives up. Does he ever talk about anything else?

suzyscat · 04/04/2023 17:58

Biker wives, or widows?

Mightyouandiconfabulate · 04/04/2023 17:58

Once we had our first baby, the bike was sold, his choice, nothing to do with me.
He said he would rather be home spending his time with us than anywhere else so that was fine. And right of course.

Now our kids are much older, they are all into bikes. It’s what they do, every weekend they go racing.

I have zero interest, as I say, it’s what my dh & kids do together.
We have trophy cabinets.

I go to presentations and watch an occasional recording of them, other than that, they know I’ve no interest.

Season0fTheWitch · 04/04/2023 18:08

I'm a biker wife, DH has a very formal stressful job so uses bikes to clear his head. He has a workshop but thankfully isn't in there all the time. He talks to me about bikes when it's relevant e.g. when he's planning a ride or ordering a part I need to wait in for, but after a good few years he's finally got the hint that although I think they're pretty and fun, I don't care about them!

I've never researched anything so I can relate with him, I nod and am interested in what he's doing which is enough for him. I wouldn't expect him to know everything about hair extensions, real housewives or acrylics (my obsessions).

gogohmm · 04/04/2023 18:16

We usually go out on the big bike together, lots of rallies etc but I can't talk bikes, and to be honest most the other women there, even those who ride themselves don't just talk bikes.

When we retire we want to overland to Australia if we can find a safe route suitable for such a heavy load (no off-roading for us!) Dp rode for 30 years before I met him so the bikes are part of the package, if you can't beat them join them.

Zanzibarz · 05/04/2023 11:33

Thank you so much for your message! 😊 It's nice to know that I'm not alone in my feelings towards my husband's bike hobby.

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