Hi, my old flame and I parted ways six years ago. It was somewhat of a toxic relationship where he claimed I was the best, he had strong feelings etc but couldn’t commit to me. We’ve had multiple breakups, on and offs and it got very messy and painful in the end. Needless to say, we didn’t remain friends although we have some friends in common (went to the same uni). In this six years, I’ve seen him couple of times on birthday parties of uni friends and we’ve been civil and polite to each other. We’re both in happy and committed long-term relationship. This weekend he started texting again - asking me if I’d like to join him and a few friends for some drinks. Then he carried on with a small talk about politics, cost of living etc. He’s totally friendly and non- offensive, but given our history, I see a red flag here. I responded to his text (rejected the drinks as I had different plans but thanked him for the invitation). I wonder what would prompt him to suddenly become so friendly?
YABU - he’s just polite
YANBU - he’s on to something
I love my partner and I wouldn’t cross any lines here, he has my whole heart and my loyalty. But of course, I’m curious what prompted the toxic ex this way again.