To let toddler play in dirty garden

[notevensure12]

Bit of backstory - am pregnant in my third trimester and was always the one to pick the dog poos up in the garden beforehand. I pulled my back out a few weeks ago and DH has got really lazy with this job. I can't bend down to do it, and basically he'll go out into the garden and do a mass poo exodus every week or two - so it's massively grim and built up a bit. (Sorry I know that's vile but just being honest here!)

Now it's getting a bit warmer DH wants to spend time in the garden with the toddler - and has decided that raking and churning up the earth (with all the embedded dog sh*t) is the best approach, and he's going to lay new soil and plant new grass to fix the areas of damage.

I think this is disgusting personally, and feel like I don't want Dc playing in the garden until it's all cleared up.

So I'm looking for an objective opinion on this. DH says I am being obsessive, over anxious about hygiene and that she is being a toddler.

My brain says that although I'm ok with playing outdoors, getting a bit dirty and basically... being a toddler - that this is quite frankly grim, and I shouldn't be allowing it until the garden is cleaned up. AIBU?

He just needs to pick up as he goes. And only let wee ones play out in garden when it's completely clear of poo. Otherwise it can be very dangerous as others have already pointed out. Is your OH all there🙄

That's disgusting - what a horrible position for him to put you and your child in. Mud is fine but that isn't. Your DH's plan for 'dealing' with it sounds utterly disgusting too. Also, if you ever come to try to sell your house - there's absolutely no way I would purchase a property if I detected even a trace of dog excrement in it.

You can train your dog to go in a specified area. we had a little section about 6x4 foot (depends on size of dog) dug it out about 20 cm, filled it with large size gravel and trained the dog to do its business there. You can buy one of those poo disolvers you bury but we bagged it and put it in the general waste. Initially we had to fence off the lawn and take her to the poo/wee area religiously but she was a puppy so training was easy. Eventually she always went to her poo area and didn't crap on the lawn. You do need to clean it regularly as if it gets full dogs won't go on it, or may accidentally walk in their own poo. As its all in one place its easy to keep clean. Watering it with bleachy water stops it smelling. Even picked up immediately from a lawn was pretty disgusting with a toddler.

The dog should have a designated “toilet area” that is cleaned at least once a day.

He can’t just mix faeces and mud, Chuck some seeds in and hope for the best. It’ll stink!

Oh and worm your dog on schedule to reduce the risk of nasty worms etc.

Not only is it disgusting to even consider allowing this but why is your dog going to the toilet so much in the garden? If a dog is taken out for regular walks, minimum twice a day, there's very little reason for it to toilet in the garden other than wees.
We hardly ever have to pick poo off the lawn, generally only in high summer when her walks are delayed due to heat.

Shocking……very risky on all counts. When my boys very young (even now tbh) I was paranoid about dog poo 😕 re Toxocara Canis

https://www.cdc.gov/parasites/toxocariasis/gen_info/faqs.html

Kids playing in mud is fine
Kids playing in dog shit or even where dog shit has been picked up is not fine.

Mud yes

Poo..no.

Surely that’s common sense?!